Ask the Therapist About Psychology

Husband Asking about Past Now — 15 Years Later

After 15 years together, my husband is now asking me about my previous relationships. Why? When we began dating, we said the past is the past. Now he keeps asking questions about my past. About 2 months ago I found out he was texting a coworker — does this have something to do with it? A: Your intuition sounds right. It seems like he is looking for a reason to justify his texting. Don’t...
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Confidentiality with a Therapist

Hi. I’ve been thinking about going to my school counselor after a friend recommended I go. I had asked my mum about a year ago if I could see a therapist but she finds it hard to believe anything is wrong with me. I am worried that if I talk to the counselor she might tell my teachers or parents. Since I’m in a boarding school, she might have to tell my teacher. I...
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I Think I Have a Problem

Hi, I am a 14 year old girl, and I think I may have a problem. It all revolves around my father. When my mother was eight months pregnant, she discovered that my father was cheating on her, and the other woman was pregnant too. My mother gave birth to me and asked him to come back, but he decided to remain with the other woman and marry her. After that, my mother married...
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Fantasizing

I catch myself fantasizing about ways to hurt someone who hurt me. Who betrayed me. My cousin slept with my fiance, I trusted my married cousin I thought cousin had more respect. But I was fooled this has been almost 4 yrs ago and I am still angry. Why do I fantasize about this? A: Thanks for your email. Betrayal is one of the core elements we react to as human beings. This is...
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I Feel Like I Have DID

From a teen in the : Sometimes I feel like the world isn’t real or I’m not real, kinda like a dream. Family says I stare at nothing a lot, and I talk to myself from time to time, even arguments. I’ve been told my personality flip flops. Like I’m me at one point, but then I suddenly change to another person. I’ve never been abused but was bullied a lot until I snapped...
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Is this Stockholm Syndrome?

From New Zealand: Hi, I’m just after some pointers of where to start researching and maybe some advice on both Stockholm syndrome and parental alienation. I have been separated from my daughter’s (9) father for 7 years. She has had regular contact with her dad until the last few months. She has been with me full time due to a domestic assault happening in his house (this is the 6th assault). My daughter has...
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Does My Mother Have a Mental Illness Problem?

From Australia: I am losing hope and no one I contacted can give me help because no one knows what I’m going through which brings me here. I have no idea if my mother is ill or not, I feel very sorry for her because of this. She is a single and very lonely 55 year old. I still live with her, but planning to move out as soon as possible because of her...
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Alcoholic Mother, Enabler Father, Newly Married and Trying

Long story short: My mother is a severe substance abuser (alcohol and pills) with depression and anxiety. She self harms, and mixes alcohol and pills. She is emotionally abusive by getting strung out and then doing the “woe is me, I am a bad mother” thing while i am picking her up off the floor. My father enables her by only blaming others and believing she is okay when she is not- even telling...
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I Don’t Feel Any Emotions

I don’t understand why I feel the way I do. I’m either frustrated and angry or mellow and just not there. I don’t feel alive anymore. I feel like I’m living to just feel there but at the same time I don’t feel sad. I feel nothing. Today I feel nothing. What could it be? A: What is interesting is that you say you feel nothing, but your first sentence says you either “feel...
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Could a 36-Year-Old Person Stay Mentally Normal without Sex?

I would like take your advice and opinion on my new relationship with a friend who is 36 years old. He is not married and never got into a relationship with any other girl. He follows different religion that does not allow sexual relations except after marriage. He seems to me a normal person but I am not sure if this long period without sex would have kept him in normal mental health? or there...
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I Am Tired and Alone

I am from India but now in the USA for MBA. After divorcing I went back for the sake of kids. I thought that maybe divorce shall teach the importance of family to my former wife. She persisted with boyfriends (reason for divorce), more than one. The latest affair of my wife was brought to fore by my elder kid (14 years old). He understands and told me that “mom talks every night and...
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