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My Dad Died, But All I Feel Is Relief

My Dad passed away a little over a year ago after a 13-year battle with cancer. Everyone in my family mourns him, but I never grieved and all I feel is relief. It doesn’t hurt me the way it does my siblings…it really doesn’t hurt me at all. I’ve never been that close to my Dad and even though everyone said he loved me dearly it rarely ever showed once I passed a certain...
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Daughter’s Social Shyness and Low Confidence

My 16-year-old daughter, who otherwise is doing great at school, straight A’s, teachers are very happy with her, has a great group of friends, enjoys their company, goes to movies, birthday parties etc with them, but she occasionally will tell me that she feels somewhat awkward at times, little anxious around crowds, somewhat not confident enough, although she doesn’t look that way, she has always been shy, but her shyness has never been a...
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My Fiancé’s Grown Daughters Still Live with Him

My fiancé and I are waiting for his daughters (35 and 36 years old) to get to a place where they can financially afford to move out! But one of them spends her money on things such as a nose job and botox and doesn’t seem to be concerned about moving out. She at least works. The other daughter doesn’t work. She has a 5-year-old son and has bipolar. She has very little work skills...
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Mother’s Validation Needed?

Do I move on from needing validation from my mother or risk upsetting her by confronting her again? I became very close to my mother after my parents’ divorce when I was 12. It wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized that it had been an unhealthy dependent relationship where she had relied on me to heal her wounds and to be her source of comfort. Part of it was feeling hurt...
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I Don’t Need Much to Become Angry

From the : I have 2 small children, married for 5 years. I am a student as well. I find myself getting angry very easy about little things, and I feel I can not cope anymore with all the running of the household, husband and studying. My husband is a very cold person and this affects me a lot too. Every time I try to speak to him (and I did try a lot)...
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Losing on Life

My dad left us when I was 10. I was brought up by mom single-handedly. She worked most of the time and I used to be alone at home. I was harassed and bullied by my uncle and his family with whom mom and myself stayed for 7 years before we could manage to stay on our own. I started working when I was 18 and have been working since then. I feel I’m...
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My Husband’s Parents Plan Our Vacations

From the : I love my husband of 17 years very much. Each year his family plans multiple camping trips, and while it’s not always my first choice. We go on almost all of them. This year, they want to us to go to Disneyland. While they have been kind enough to offer to pay for many of the expenses, it’s far from my or his idea of a great vacation. Instead, I’d love...
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Stressed and Loads of Other Feelings

There’s a lot of feelings going on inside me for nearly two years now and I can’t always make sense of them or why they’re there. I’ve stopped caring about a lot of things and people, I still care about the few friends and some things to help pass the time the rest I’m just unable to care about. I get panic attacks and anxiety attacks but we haven’t really seen a doctor about...
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Confused about Daughter’s Teacher’s Behavior — Possible Histrionic Personality?

My daughter’s 3rd grade teacher behaves inconsistently and unusually, which makes it difficult to interact with her. Within weeks of meeting her, she asked me to be her friend (though clarifying that we couldn’t “hang out” until after my daughter graduates her class), shared overly personal information (, menopause symptoms), and stated that she needs me in her life. She has been married for 30 years and has three grown children. One moment she...
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My Son Has Totally Changed

From the : Our son had always been warm and close in our family growing up. He is very smart and had a great childhood. He went away to get his PhD and marriage. About 3 years ago there was a huge change in his personality, now best described as: prideful, very little empathy, driven in his work, ungrateful, dislikes emotion, unforgiving, distant, inward focus, distrustful, suspicious, arrogant, no compassion, doesn’t seem to care...
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How Do I Deal with My Abuser?

From the : When we were little, my sister, 4 1/2 years older, sexually abused me for about 3 years. I’ve thought about it from time to time over the years, but I more or less have moved past it. I live with my parents and we moved about 2 years ago. Now, my sister visits with her 3 kids and her boyfriend and they stay at our house for days on end. She...
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Discipline Issue with an Extremely Defiant 4-Year-Old

Hello. My girlfriend has 2 boys ages 5 and 4. The 4-year-old is in a very big power struggle with her. He is urinating all over the house, shouts at her, and routinely disobeys. He can be physical at times with his brother and mother and me. She has tried spanking, praise, and rewards. But nothing seems to do the complete trick and he falls back into these cycles where he is super bad....
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