Ask the Therapist About Parenting & Children

Supporting My Boyfriend’s Parents

My boyfriend and I have been living together for almost a year. I know that he is the man that I am going to spend my life with and I have no doubts about that. We live in his home with his parents and because they are not working we completely support them and pay for everything. His mom has a multitude of health issues and is in her 50s she hasn’t worked in...
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Terrified of My Father, Nightmares that He Will Kill Me

My father has always had issues with drugs, drinking, and anger issues. All three together are just toxic. He is fine, fine, fine – for weeks/months – then will decide he doesn’t need his meds (for his anger problems) and go off them. Within a day, he is a raging lunatic. Screaming, yelling, hitting my mother, breaking doors, snapping his cell phone in half, kicking the dogs. Recently he started cheating on my mother...
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I Can’t Say No

What do I do!? I just feel like I have no control over anything… it’s like I’m just always supposed to be on… I never have time for myself… I’m always either studying or working or listening to my mother’s problems with her ex-husband. I typically like to unwind by playing the bass, but I can’t even get what I need out of that. Anytime I look forward to something my plans get changed...
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Older Sister Neglected as a Child and Is Now Having a Baby

My sister, M– is in the middle of me and my brother and I am the youngest. We are all 4 years apart. Our parents divorced when M– was in her mid-teens. Mom was angry constantly and condescending to my father. My father was wounded, emotional, but my sister would later describe him as “disgustingly weak”. I remember coming to my sister during this time crying, hoping to share in our sadness about our...
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I Feel Trapped by Situation I Caused

From Finland: I am in 10 years committed relationship. I have had an affair for two years. Two years of lie and cheat to both sides. Can’t let go of one or the other one. Got the affair partner pregnant 3 months ago, as soon as I heard of it I ran away and cut almost all connections with her. Not because I don’t love her or not because I am afraid of being...
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Moved to Be Near My Son But It’s Not Working

Moved to another state left everything for my son who moved here bf me. He lives with dad and stepmom. Been a nightmare since I moved here. Now I have no job, no money, no family support. My friend back home said he’ll get me home, he sends money and not a plane or bus ticket. I’m so sad and hurt, haven’t caused issues for the ex and his new wife, just wanted to...
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My Boyfriend’s Parents Blame Him for Problems They’re Causing

From England: My boyfriend and I met at university, and since graduating we have lived with his retired parents. They are comfortable and are helping us find our feet. I work part time and make a small contribution, my boyfriend is given a small allowance until things pick up. We are very appreciative of their support and respectful in their home. Yet, the relationship with his parents is strained. His father ignores him completely,...
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Psychological Child Abuse?

My 4 year old nephew lives with my parents and I, but since he was 2 he has called me mommy and looked to me as his mother figure. His mom is a drug addict and abandoned him and sees him only occasionally and was present when his father beat my sister. Lately, my whole family has been yelling at him and telling him I am not his mother and to stop calling me...
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Parental Neglect / Childhood

Is this normal behavior for a parent to neglect spending time with their kid(s)? Before I turned 10, my childhood was good and I have fond memories of my family hanging out / doing activities together. However, after reaching the age of 10, my father just stopped bothering to spend time with his children. Over the years he acts like he wants to hang out but when time rolls around for the activity to...
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I Feel Something Is Wrong and My Parents Won’t Believe Me

I don’t know what is happening to me, I have really bad depression and sometimes I just get all happy and excited about everything and then out of nowhere without reason I get too depressed, I used to consume drugs but I stop consuming a year ago, but it still feels like nothing is real, also I have attempted suicide like 5 times, I feel like I’m losing my mind, I feel like I’m...
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