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I Think My Father Is a Narcissist

From Lebanon: Growing up I thought what my dad used to do was completely normal and I had accepted the bad behavior. But by the time I grew up I realized that having someone mentally abuse us with harsh words and sometimes physical aggressiveness, it was too late. Recently he loses his mind, he spies on us all leaving devices hidden in our cars. He and my mother have been seeing other people openly,...
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Over-Attached to a ‘Friend-with-Benefits’

I am a male, and so is he. We were both teenagers, one apparently experimenting and the other finding his sexuality. It took years before we kissed. We were around 13-14 at the time. Every weekend after I was at his, two teenagers fumbling around and discovering themselves. I think I always loved him, right from the start, but never realised it. We parted ways for a few years, but since we attend the...
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All My Life I’ve Been Criticized by My Mother

From the : Hi. This story has been in the making most of my life and seems a vicious circle that I cannot solve to both our liking & to my annoyance. All my life, I have felt mostly ignored & criticized by my mother. She came here from Europe at 21 after meeting my American father in Europe and marrying here. They were educated, but, I feel, “missed” the 60’s revolution and both...
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Is This a Bereavement Issue?

A 30 year old female accidentally ran over and killed her 3 year old three years ago. Devastated by the incident, she now sees the child everywhere she goes and behaves as if the child is alive. She has never visited the gravesite. She sets a plate with food for the child, turns down and makes the bed, buys clothes and toys for the child, is planning to enroll the child in school, and...
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My Relationship with My Girlfriend Is Crumbling

From the : I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years. I have found a situation similar to mine with the title of “My Girlfriend Lost Her Feelings” answered by Dr. Marie Harwell-Walker on PsychCentral. However, I wanted to further the question into what actually the person who will be waiting can do. In the answer to the question, Dr. Marie said how people’s lives diverge when they go off...
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Difficulty Developing Feelings

Simply put, I can’t develop any romantic feelings for people. There’s some things I feel I should share for the sake of context: I’m capable of sexual attraction — I am bisexual, and while it has been the cause of some stress during puberty I don’t feel like it has been a significant factor in my problem. I used to be able to develop these feelings in my early/mid teens. I experienced 4 crushes on males...
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4 Year Relationship Crumbling

I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 4 years. I have found a situation similar to mine with the title of “My Girlfriend Lost Her Feelings” answered by Dr. Marie Harwell-Walker on psychcentral. However, I wanted to further the question into what actually the person who will be waiting can do. In the answer to the question, Dr. Marie said how people’s lives diverge when they go off and have different...
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My Life Is Taking a Downfall and I Am Scared

From Cyprus: I don’t know what is wrong with me. i feel like i am not living. i am scared i will die, soon. I used to be a ‘happy’ person with the occasional ‘sad’ moments, now i am a sad person with some rare ‘happy’ moments. I have lost interest in almost everything i used to enjoy, in everything that used to keep me going and because of this i feel that i’ll...
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Is This Grief or an Underlying Psychological Issue?

From Spain: My husband died 16 months ago from cancer. We had only been married 9 months, and without going into details, we had little support, and the course of the disease was particularly atypical and rare, leading to greater stress. In the following year I experience significant amounts of elation, belief that everything was now going to be ok, etc. punctuated with extreme sadness/grief/loss. Additionally, my husband had a different nationality, so I...
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I Just Started Cutting Myself…

I’m 15 years old and just started cutting myself last night, I don’t know what’s wrong with me. My biological father died the beginning of this month, and I just feel like crap. All my mom and step-dad do is yell at me, I have no friends and no one to talk to. I’m so far behind in my school work and I think about killing myself all the time. I’ve felt bad and...
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He’s Always on My Mind

From Bangladesh: I got involved with someone months back, but then he left me. I tried getting him back but got to know he’s already dating someone else. I’m in depression for the last 7 months. I can’t live my life and I lost all interest from my life. He is always on mind as if stuck in my brain. I can’t think about anything and it’s driving me insane. I also can’t stand...
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I Cannot Control Myself after Loss of Father

I’ve been having issues lately. My Father Died 5 years ago and since then I have no interest whatsoever in studies. I do not like to go to school at all, I tell my mother that I am ill even when I’m perfectly fine. Recently my final exams were going on, I just didn’t care. All I care about is computer, and I want this to change. No matter how hard I try my brain...
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