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Grief & Loss Articles

Grieving boy is angry.

Monday, April 21st, 2008

My wife passed away last July of 07 and I married very young and my step son who I'm the legal guardian of is having anger issues and will not talk to me about them. he just says that everythings fine, he plays ice hockey here locally and has been in a couple of situations that he has just punched someone in the head, he is only 11 and this is how his older brother reacted when his grandfather passed and started using substances that are illegal, I want to know how I can keep my son from going down the same path or a simular one. His schooling has suffered and I have people who are helping both of us to get through this ...  
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Depressed and Suicidal

Monday, March 31st, 2008

I am lost. I used to be so strong. I get suicidal, in theory every day. The only thing that keeps me from doing it is the hurt it would bring on my son and the man that loves me and my sister/other family. I think of suicide everyday, but do not know how to do it, and how to do it without hurting anyone,but realize it would alleviate all this pain that is like being in a torture chamber. I was left by my husband last year for another woman. I'm heavy, she is young and tiny. She rides motorcycles in a group w/my husband, and I guess it was more than he could resist. I had two heart attacks, and several other health ...  
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PTSD 68 Years After an Event?

Sunday, March 23rd, 2008

Q. Post Traumatic Stress: Can a person be still suffering from PTS 68 years after the event? I was in a terrible accident in 1941 which took the lives of two people. I had many symptoms of PTD, but, of course, it was not recognized back then. I have suffered depression and/or anxiety on and off for years. I have recently written a novel in which I describe the accident and the young child's reactions during that first year. I find that I cannot read it without crying. Am I now reliving that time? A. It is certainly possible to have post traumatic stress for many years after an event, as you have described. I do not know if you are actually reliving the ...  
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I feel like I’ve lost my brother.

Monday, October 8th, 2007

Hi, I'm 15, and I feel my brother has betrayed me. He started stealing things from our family and at first, I gave him the benefit of the doubt, but then he admitted to my face that he had stolen from me. We were very close before, so this realization hurt me. I started feeling depressed, and sometimes cried at night. I have mostly got over this, but I still feel depressed thinking about it and I feel, that in a sense, I have lost my brother. Even after talking to one of my most trusted friends, I don't know what to do about the situation. I would like to start trusting him again, even just a little bit, but I don't know how to ...  
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My best friend died and I don’t know what to do.

Sunday, August 26th, 2007

Q: My best friend died last spring when a car hit her on her bike. I've known her since we were toddlers and her parents live across the street. I feel empty without her and I know it'll get worse in school, because I keep thinking of her never to go on to high school, to graduate from college, to get married and have kids. I think her mom and dad have gone into depression; her mom is worried all of the time and gets exhausted at little tasks, and her dad is getting moody and hardly ever talks anymore. My parents are going through a hard time, too, since she was like a second daughter to them, but they try to act cheerful ...  
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Fear of being abandoned

Thursday, August 23rd, 2007

Q. I am 23 years old and my mother is moving to Kansas. When I was ten I was adopted by my mom that I have now. She was the first one to show me what a mother's love was supposed to be. She cared for me even when I was wrong.

Last week while my mom was visiting family she decided she was going to up and move. I am taking this news very hard. Just as she has been there for me I was there for her throughout many medical tests. I am so convinced that she is abandoning me. I also keep telling myself that she does not love me anymore because I have a mental illness. I feel guilty because

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My sister miscarried and isn’t acting herself.

Sunday, August 19th, 2007

My sister is getting a divorce and it came out of nowhere, she had a miscarriage a couple of months ago and I think she is depressed. I know she is unhappy but I think she has snapped. We have some history of mental illness due to stress in our family. I'm really concerned, she is doing things she has never done before. She up and left her husband last week and is staying with me, but she goes out every night and drinks. Do you think she needs to see a therapist ?? and how can I convince her to see one.

A: I'm so glad your sister has a caring sister. Yes, by all means encourage her to see a therapist. It

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my husband has shut down after the death of his mother

Saturday, August 4th, 2007

My mother in Law (whom i had a great close bond with) had a sudden heart attatck at the age of 53 when I was taking her to hospital. one and a half years has passed now and I am moving through the grief slowly, but my husband has become detatched, withdrawn, sad, irritable, excessive eating and lost his sex drive. I understand now that he has begun to grieve, but unsure how to help him. He is a bloke. Does not talk about his feelings at all especially not to strangers, he hasn't admitted it to himself what can I do to help him go through the process but not get lost and not go too deep that he completely detaches from me and ...  
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My boyfriend’s Mom has breast cancer

Monday, July 16th, 2007

My boyfriend has found out his mother has breast cancer. I am looking for advice on how to be supportive for him. I want to know what to say to him. I have never lost a parent to death. I want him to know I am here for him. I don't want to be selfish.

I went searching for books on supporting a loved one who is losing a parent and could not find any books. My boyfriend and I have known each other six years. We have only in the last eight months been devoted to being with each other in the future. We hope to marry each other and have children. I curently live on the West Coast and he lives on

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I’m dating the son of my mom’s boyfriend.

Tuesday, June 26th, 2007

I met my bf in the 7th grade when no one liked me, and my mom and his dad hadnt told us they were dating yet. i really liked him and he gave me more attention than anyone else had. a year later, he told me that he had feelings for me, and wanted me to be his first kiss. i was happier than i can remember ever being. Our parents had started dating and we had been dating in secret.He helped me overcome alot of my social anxiety and depression, and i can still tell him anything. I feel closer to him than i feel to best friend of 10 years, and even my mother. Our parents found out, and seperated us from each ...  
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Fiancee depressed by death of both parents

Tuesday, June 19th, 2007

Both never married, I at 40+ yrs & my fiancee at 60+ yrs planned to marry in 4 mos. In the last 2 mos both of my fiancees parents died and my father had a massive heart attack as my fiancee was burying his Dad. My fiancee had to remove his mother from life support and I have just removed my father from life support; My fiancee loved his parents deeply but was abandoned by both parents at the age of 10, and really has spent his whole life seeking their love. He has postponed out wedding and we may not even remain engaged. He says that he doesn't know what he wants and that he now has no reason to live. Recently, I found ...  
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Can depression be a cause of natural death ?

Sunday, June 17th, 2007

This question is bothering for an year and a half since my father's death. My father was a man committed to his family who has always been caring and loving. All of a sudden he started to feel uneasy and sick with no specific problems. Doctors failed to diagnose any physical problems and said that he was "imagining his illness" and diagnosed him as suffering from depression. My father has no family history of mental illness or himself had any such symtom. He died within two days from heart failure. Is it possible that a person suddenly becomes depressive for no apparent reason and his heart fails from depression? He was 72 A: I am so sorry for your loss. You were fortunate to have ...  
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-- Mother Teresa