Ask the Therapist About Grief & Loss

Ex Girlfriend Is Acting Out of Character

My ex girlfriend and I were together 3 years, We broke up around August, I believe that she is not handling it well, having been in 3 relationships since, all women, and she now says she is gay, but is going overboard in trying to prove it. She told me that she was with this new girl to “prove the world #8221; She has maintained contact with not only me, but my family as...
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Abortion Changed Our Lives… What Now?

Back in April my live-in girlfriend of over 2 years and I went through with an abortion. Consequently, we drifted apart until the beginning of September, when she said she couldn’t do it anymore. The whole summer we were pretty much doing our own thing, trying haphazardly to cope with what happened.  I sank into a deep depression without even realizing it. I would numb my senses with alcohol and gambling on the daily. I...
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Guilty Feeling for Intimacy with Wife’s Sister

From India: I am feeling guilty about being intimate with my relative. I was seen as an ideal person but that moment demolished my image in front of my relative. I have even apologised to my relative however she is trying to avoid me. I feel ashamed and want to bring back that momentum before that incident where I was seen as an ideal person. I am not able to focus on my work...
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I Think I Am Bipolar, Do I Need Therapy?

My friend committed suicide two years ago. Four months later my grandpa died. For some reason the awful feeling never went away. Every day I have the feeling of grief as if it happened yesterday. It’s not that I’m still mourning, but it has affected me physically and emotionally. I have no appetite, I hardly sleep, I never want to go out, and I am exhausted all the time. My parents think I’m always...
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Prolonged Depression After a Sudden Breakup

From Germany: I am asking help on behalf of a friend who is in a difficult situation for getting help or treatment. He used to be a normal person, until his relationship of about 2 years was interrupted very suddenly and unexpectedly. After that he started ditching work, and eventually ended up giving it up altogether and moved in with his parents. His family and friends assume that the breakup is the reason for...
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Whats My Diagnostic?

From Canada: I’m a 14 year old guy and about 3 months ago i started to get angry for no reason then i’d be laughing or i’d laugh for no reason. When I’m outside I have thoughts to harm others brutally i also get paranoid whenever someone I don’t know comes close to me. My father had bipolar disorder however he died 7 months ago and my friends tell my that I’m depressed because...
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Time Frame to Meet Step Child

From Canada: I have been dating my boyfriend for a few months now, he has an almost 3 year old son. We have no idea when I should meet his son (my own therapist suggested 6 -12 months after the split to give the child time to grieve it has been 8 months since my boyfriend and his ex split). We both want a life long commitment and me to eventually step into a...
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Erotic Transference & My Attorney

Does erotic transference only occur between patient and therapist, or can it happen between any two people. I just went through a difficult and painful divorce. I was recently diagnosed with PTSD as a result. Sometime during the divorce process, I started having feelings for my male divorce attorney. I am female. I started fantasizing about him. Sexually desiring him. I feel I am in love with him. My therapist says the feelings aren’t...
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My Friend Left without a Goodbye

From a 25 year old woman in India: Known the guy for 15 years, a real solid friendship where we discussed everything, but he left the state without goodbye. We shared everything with each other, our hopes ambitions, embarrassments, secrets, sexual promiscuity and weaknesses. I was always the shoulder to cry on when the series of unending girlfriends that waltzed through his life left their sting behind, late night calls, pit stops at my place...
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I Feel Like My Boyfriend Doesn’t Care about Our Relationship

I have been dating my boyfriend for almost 4 years and I feel like I don’t even know him anymore. We fight almost everyday over stuff like he spends more time with his friends than me or he doesn’t keep his word. I think he doesn’t care because he’s always picking a fight with me and he’s blaming every fight on me saying I started it like a child. Every time we fight he...
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She’s Mourning Infertility

From Brazil: I read a ton of articles about this subject, but my case doesn’t fit any of those. My girlfriend is 31 years old (I’m 24) and we’ve been together for a little over a year. I love here as deeply as I possibly could and I wanna build my life with her. In june she discovered that she’s infertile, the chance of having a baby is 5% max., if not totally impossible....
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