Ask the Therapist About Grief & Loss

My Daughter Blames Me for Her Suicide in Her Farewell Letter. How Can I Survive?

From Netherlands: Our beloved daughter committed suicide at age 20 on 9 September 2014. She was a brilliant student but had difficulties with her studies and holding friends. She was depressed and liked to be home with us her parents and sister. She was diagnosed with autism or schizoid. She decided not to be treated. She could never express her feelings, she said she could not feel. She took pills and left us on...
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If He Recovers from Depression, Will We?

From the : A little over a month ago, my boyfriend decided he was no longer happy with me and broke off our four year relationship. He thought I didn’t trust him. He thought I wanted to keep him isolated. Lately, he parties more, eats less, doesn’t want to be around his friends or his family, has difficulty sleeping, and seems generally sad and/or angry. In the last week, I’ve tried letting him know...
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Compound Grief and PTSD

From the : I started to write my life story but then realized it would take 10 pages so I will try to sum it up best I can. I had a really bad childhood full of neglect , abuse, abandonment and family mental illnesses. I always had anxiety as a child but was able to mask it as I thought people would think there was something wrong with me. As I got older...
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Does Codependency Lead to Depersonalization?

From Norway: I recently discovered im codependent. I’ve recently broken up with my narcissistic ex after a 9 month relationship which as you would know, was not a pleasent experience on my behalf. I’m going to see a psychologist about this, but after reading posts on this side about it, i’d rather talk to you first. I find myself in situations where i can’t say no nor do what would be considered most beneficial...
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I Am Dealing with Memory Loss

I am dealing with memory loss. So far doctors are unable to find the cause. Last year my husband was diagnosed with Parkinson’s Disease. Often dealing with the medical industry is stressful and our health issues are stressful. I am not depressed all the time just periodically when pressures build up. Often I am unaware that pressures are building up and I have an emotional breakdown. I feel like my memory issues have made...
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How Do I Handle Mother Who Left Us 35 Years Ago?

I am 53 and one of 5 kids. Mother left Dad (us) in the ’80s for a woman in another State. She (they) eventually moved back but lived several hours away. We are only now realizing that many of our trials in life have been a result of her abandonment, lies, narcissism, and reluctance to acknowledge her hypochondria (which nearly frightened us to death as kids)or seek therapy for her own survivor’s guilt from...
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Ex Girlfriend Is Acting Out of Character

My ex girlfriend and I were together 3 years, We broke up around August, I believe that she is not handling it well, having been in 3 relationships since, all women, and she now says she is gay, but is going overboard in trying to prove it. She told me that she was with this new girl to “prove the world #8221; She has maintained contact with not only me, but my family as...
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Abortion Changed Our Lives… What Now?

Back in April my live-in girlfriend of over 2 years and I went through with an abortion. Consequently, we drifted apart until the beginning of September, when she said she couldn’t do it anymore. The whole summer we were pretty much doing our own thing, trying haphazardly to cope with what happened.  I sank into a deep depression without even realizing it. I would numb my senses with alcohol and gambling on the daily. I...
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Guilty Feeling for Intimacy with Wife’s Sister

From India: I am feeling guilty about being intimate with my relative. I was seen as an ideal person but that moment demolished my image in front of my relative. I have even apologised to my relative however she is trying to avoid me. I feel ashamed and want to bring back that momentum before that incident where I was seen as an ideal person. I am not able to focus on my work...
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