Family Articles

My Husband’s Parents Plan Our Vacations

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, February 9th, 2015
From the U.S.: I love my husband of 17 years very much. Each year his family plans multiple camping trips, and while it's not always my first choice. We go on almost all of them. This year, they want to us to go to Disneyland. ...

Stressed and Loads of Other Feelings

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Monday, February 9th, 2015
There's a lot of feelings going on inside me for nearly two years now and I can't always make sense of them or why they're there. I've stopped caring about a lot of things and people, I still care about the few friends and some ...

How to Answer Awkward Holiday Questions

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Sunday, February 8th, 2015
I have a question that Google/Bing can't answer. I was abandoned at the age of 4 and adopted by horrific, abusive parents (I have complex PTSD, among other issues). Although my abusive adoptive father died many years ago, I have been estranged from my also ...

Scared of Getting Help and Not Sure How

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Sunday, February 8th, 2015
My mom and I have had issues for four years. They keep getting worse no matter what I try to do. She makes me feel worthless and yells at me over every simple mistake I make. She tells me I'm not going to have a ...

My Fiance Is Outdated in His Thinking

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, February 7th, 2015
From India: Hello, I am 23 yrs old. I have been in a relationship for the past 2 yrs. My family supports it too and are happy about it. But my fiance is very possessive and moreover very outdated in thinking. I am a more ...

My Son Has Totally Changed

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Wednesday, February 4th, 2015
From the U.S.: Our son had always been warm and close in our family growing up. He is very smart and had a great childhood. He went away to get his PhD and marriage. About 3 years ago there was a huge change in his ...

Mother In-Law Acts Out and Is Faking Pregnancy

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, February 3rd, 2015
I'm writing on behalf of myself and my three sisters in law; Our 56 year old MIL has been diagnosed with anxiety in the past, and wants constant attention from everyone in her family, and behaves very disruptively to get it. According to her parents, siblings, ...

How Do I Deal with My Abuser?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, February 2nd, 2015
From the U.S.: When we were little, my sister, 4 1/2 years older, sexually abused me for about 3 years. I've thought about it from time to time over the years, but I more or less have moved past it. I live with my parents ...

Agitated in the Presence of Agitated People

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Sunday, February 1st, 2015
Hi! I'm wondering how to keep your calm around very agitated people. I can usually be peaceful in crowded/loud places no problem, but my mother-in-law is a very dynamic and anxious person, and whenever we have a conversation I feel exhausted and drained at the ...

He’s Dead But the Abuse Continues

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, January 31st, 2015
From the U.S.: Hi. My mom is 79. Her husband, my father, died this past September (25th). He was 82. They were married for 57 years, and my father was extremely abusive to her -- cheated on her for years and was physically and very ...

Does My Brother Have Paranoia or Schizophrenia?

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Saturday, January 31st, 2015
Hi - I'm new here, but don't where else to go. This is in regard to my sibling. He is 37 and lives with my mother in Florida. He has a severe problem with marijuana and has a history of substance abuse (cocaine, LSD, psilocybin, MDMA/MDA, ...

Borderline Personality Disorder Issues?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, January 30th, 2015
I have borderline personality disorder, and I am having problems expressing my emotions at home for fear of being judged for showing them. I have been called mentally crazy, dramatic, and attention-seeking. I have issues communicating with people. When I was younger, I wasn't allowed ...