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Eating Disorders Articles

Successful and unhappy

Monday, April 21st, 2008

I'm about to graduate college with a degree in music education. I've found success as a teacher, musician, student, and as a leader on campus. I'm still not happy. I struggled with an eating disorder and depression in the past. I thought I had left it behind, but I'm not sure anymore. I've always believed that if you choose a career you love, you will be happy — at least, be happy most of the time. Not all careers are perfect, but I'm unhappy more often than not. I can put on a happy face at work and have a great, successful day — yet when I walk out the door, it's gone. I've gone from a natural, confident extrovert, to someone who fakes her ...  
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Possible Eating Disorder?

Saturday, March 29th, 2008

Q. So ever since I was young I've weighed about 100-110lbs. I have never went over 110lbs, and if I did. I tried to lose the weight immediately. Which was fine. I was short, thin, I looked fine. Everyone was jealous of how skinny I was. When I moved to Calgary. I've been here for a few days shy of a year. And noticed a couple of months ago I'd gained a significant amount of weight. I know I'm not fat. But I can't help but think I look huge when I look at my body in front of a mirror. I've only put on 30lbs, but it's all in my stomach, butt, and thighs. I can't stand it. So that being said. I ...  
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Why does my family hate me?

Saturday, March 1st, 2008

Hi iam a senior in highschool in a small town..I have struggled with depression, anxiety, panic, and eating disorders since i was 13 years old. And my family just doesn't seem to understand what i'am going through,they act like its just something that i can automaticly turn off my emotions and be happy but thats not the case. I have 2 younger brothers and a younger sister and they all treat our dog better than they treat me. Whenever either one of them walk by me they always have something rude to say such as psycho, retard, why don't you just die, no one wants you here, I hate you etc. My parents say that i should just ignore it that they ...  
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Trying to Eat But Can’t. Eating Disorder?

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Q. I have been trying to eat but every time i try it seems to come back up 15 minutes later .The past two weeks i haven't been able to eat much. This is because 15 minutes later i feel sick to my stomach and it all comes up. I went to a doctor and i was checked for the flu and other viral sicknesses . I didn't show signs of any. I have lost 10 pounds during the two weeks its been going on and i have had many people tell me i look very thin and pale recently. I tried to talk to my dad about it but he just ignored me . Im not sure what to do or if i can ...  
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New job. New town. Old depression.

Thursday, February 7th, 2008

I am in my early 20s and have been struggling with depression for the past few months. I recently began a new job and moved to a new city, away from my friends and family. I am constantly stressed out and unhappy, and as I am often alone, my feelings continue to become stronger. I know that my job has contributed to my unhappiness, but I feel that I cannot leave it for a variety of reasons.

When I am depressed, I have a tendency to overeat. In high school, I was anorexic, and this evolved into episodes of bingeing and purging in college and afterwards. When I overeat, I experience intense feelings of guilt, which leads to greater

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Husband is over-involved with wife’s eating habits.

Sunday, January 20th, 2008

I am super-sensitive about the issue of my weight or food intake. I occasionally binge and although I am in a "healthy" weight range, I would like to be thinner and my husband likes very slim girls.

I have always been obsessed with food and think about it a lot. I have never had an eating disorder (starving or purging) except for the binging episodes. I would like to loose about 20 lbs. I am 5'4 and currently 143lbs. I have never liked exercise but have been exercising consistently for the last 12 mos (more than I ever have in my life — about 3-4 times a week). My husband is very fitness-minded and lactose intolerant so watches what he eats very carefully. I have

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Do I Have an Eating Disorder?

Wednesday, December 12th, 2007

Q. I am always concerned with how I look. There is not a day that goes by in which I do not think about my weight. I remember one time in college I was with a guy and he said I looked anorexic, and I took it as a compliment. I am always wondering if people think I am overweight. When I am by myself I will eat large quantities of food. After I consume large quantities of food I feel guilty and completely disgusted with myself. I tend to rationalize the amount of food I eat but saying I will exercise an extreme amount the next day (also so I don't gain any weight).

I have always, for as long as I can remember, felt

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Is 6 and a half stone and 5 foot overweight?

Sunday, September 30th, 2007

I always feel horribly fat and ugly! I do loads of exercise every day and try to eat around 500 calories a day, 900 at the most and then I feel terrible! I've tried making myself sick before but it hasn't worked so when I eat something I just do exercise afterwards to burn off the calories. I count calories on everything and try to eat as little carbs, sugars and fats as possible. My stomach constantly aches and rumbles weirdly and I get tired so easily! It's really annoying but I don't know how else to get less fat. I wish I could be slimmer. Lots slimmer! My aunt, who's a nurse once heard me complaining about how fat I am and started telling ...  
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Eating Disorder and Cutting

Sunday, August 26th, 2007

Q: This is my second episode of having an eating disorder. I got help about 2 years ago and mostly recovered from it, but relapsed about 2 months ago. When my mom found out the first time, she had no idea what to do and it destroyed our relationship. Her mother had an eating disorder and she cannot handle that I suffer from the same thing. If I tell her that I relapsed, our relationship may never be the same again, and I cannot live with that.

The disorder is much worse this time, and I recently began cutting. No one knows except for my best friend, who keeps telling me to tell my mom. I don't think that there are any other adults

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The bulimic friend - to oblige or betray?

Sunday, July 29th, 2007

Q. I have a friend with eating-disorders. We mostly hang out by going out for beers, and afterwards we eat. Now I feel somewhat trapped. She always wants me to eat a lot, so I do because I don't want her to feel bad. This enables her to eat a lot too, and I just know that she is throwing it up as soon as she gets home. If we didn't eat so unhealthy, she probably wouldn't throw up, but telling her no will possibly hurt her self image. I feel as if she would think that I am judging her, or that I think she shouldn't eat at all. Same thing about the alcohol. She drinks every day and I shouldn't encourage that by ...  
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He wants his fantasy to be reality.

Sunday, May 27th, 2007

I am a 46 year old woman, divorced after 18 years of a monogamous marriage and now single for 4 years. My significant other is 57 and has been married 3 times. With all three of his previous wives he has been involved in a swinging lifestyle. His fantasy is to watch me have sex with several men of different ethnic backgrounds. I do not have a problem with "fantasizing" during sex, but I feel that ultimately he would like to me be as sexually free as his other relationships. He states that he is "OK" if I don't want to make our sex play real and that he is content to stay in a monogamous relationship and that he ...  
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My wife has a severe eating disorder and OCD. What about me?

Wednesday, March 7th, 2007

Q: I have been married for 12 years, my wife has been battling her eating disorder for 3 years now. In the past year, she has also developed OCD. She goes to a therapist once a week and refuses the advice of the therapist to check into a program. She weighs 80 lbs. and is dying in front of my eyes and I can't do a thing about it. Her OCD and her eating disorder has consumed our lives, she hasn't worked in 10 months and spends every moment cleaning and running. No one can convince her to get help. I feel that she chooses her disorders over our marriage. I have tried to stay patient and helpful over the first 2 years, but I ...  
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