Borderline Articles

Why Am I So Uncompassionate?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, November 17th, 2013
Increasingly my non-compassion for others has really started to alarm and confuse me. I've been diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder, depression, and general anxiety, and all my life I've been somewhat apathetic. But others have started pointing out to me that I don't really react ...

I May Have BPD

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, October 7th, 2013
I'm 15 and I've been concerned about my mental health for a while now. I feel as though I may have BPD and I want to be properly evaluated by a professional but I'm not sure how to bring up the issue to ...

My Girlfriend Was Involuntarily Committed

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, September 17th, 2013
My girlfriend recently got baker acted. She had an episode with her mom and it got to the point where she threatened herself and her mom with a knife because she was told she couldn’t leave the house. She’s been diagnosed with bpd, however she ...

Is This Love?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, August 18th, 2013
I guess I'll just start from the beginning. I met my boyfriend during my junior year of college in Florida. We started out as friends for a couple of months. He was my marijuana dealer. I was a student, who worked as an exotic dancer ...

Feeling Worthless

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, August 12th, 2013
I'm 15 and all my life I've struggled with self-esteem. When I was younger I thought I was just humble and shrugged it off. It got to the point where compliments were almost foreign and insulting. I've always felt like a waste of space and ...

Depression and Self-harm

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Monday, August 5th, 2013
I've been cutting myself for a while now. Usually the cuts are small and the bleeding stops after 2 minutes. But today I cut until I saw white flesh. The bleeding was more severe, and lasted 4-5 minutes. My problem is that I don't know ...

Can’t Explain Problems

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, August 1st, 2013
I am starting to have some grave concerns that there is something fundamentally wrong with me. I have a long history of an eating disorder (30 years), a little bit of mild self harm, depression and dissociation issues. More recently I have started acknowledging ...

Jealous or Insecure?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, June 15th, 2013
I have been married to my husband for 12 yrs we have 4 children the oldest is 9 and the youngest is 9 months old. My husband and I have been having problems for a long time. Our problem is me I guess to ...

Mother Needs Help

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, June 6th, 2013
I want to help my mom, but she refuses to believe there's anything wrong with her, and i have no idea what to do. Growing up, she was very overprotective, to the point of it being ridiculous (ie - asking what Santa claus got ...

Trouble with a Bunch of Things

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, June 2nd, 2013
I wanted to say thank you for reading this first of all. Here's the thing: When it comes to school there is one thing that always worries me when I leave the house which would be my classmates. In certain classes there can be huge ...

My Spouse Has BPD

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Saturday, June 1st, 2013
My wife and I have been married for 24 years, she is 51 and has BPD. For the past 4-5 her behavior has consistently gone as follows. In the mornings she love me but by early afternoon she becomes agitated, cries about how ...

Mental Illness vs. Character Flaws

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, May 24th, 2013
How do I determine the difference between the mental illnesses my daughter lives with and character defects? It is difficult for me to know the difference. Can you offer some guidelines that will help discern the differences, to help me in knowing how to respond? My ...