Ask the Therapist About Borderline

Elderly Relative in Long-Term Therapy

I am a “sandwiched” middle aged mom, placed in the somewhat awkward position of helping my aging mother-in-law. She has been in therapy all of her adult life. She was abused as a child and has suffered from various psychiatric and emotional problems (depression, borderline personality, hoarding/compulsive acquiring). My question is this: how do psychiatrists keep family members in the loop when someone with existing psychiatric problems starts to show signs of possible cognitive...
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Do I Have BPD or Is It Just OCD and Hypochondria?

I was diagnosed with OCD when I was very young maybe 12 or 13. I have had an on again off again relationship with Meds I mostly have intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I am currently back on meds but recently I have been going through a very hard time after moving to a new state and experiencing a few traumatic life events. I was abused regularly by my father and he eventually committed suicide....
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BPD Is Ruining My Relationship

From Antigua: Hey, at a point I started to feel that I was loosing it. I have BPD and it is ruining my relationship with the people I love. It already ruined my relationship with my boyfriend and there is nothing I can do to fix it. Right now I just want to focus and practice loving me and accepting who I am. My break-up was very hard for me to under go. I’ve...
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Does My Mother Have a Mental Illness Problem?

From Australia: I am losing hope and no one I contacted can give me help because no one knows what I’m going through which brings me here. I have no idea if my mother is ill or not, I feel very sorry for her because of this. She is a single and very lonely 55 year old. I still live with her, but planning to move out as soon as possible because of her...
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A Brief Explanation of What I Feel/What Disorders I Believe I Have

Hello! I’m mostly writing this to get feedback on issues I think I might have; I have suspicions. Sometimes I wake up with a knot in my stomach for no reason, or have trouble getting out of bed in the morning, and have trouble keeping calm in public (I’m more than certain I have generalized anxiety and depression – irritability, nervousness, sluggishness, upset stomach/nausea, panic in public situations). I’ve come out of an abusive...
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My Wife Says I Don’t Validate Her

From the : I have been married for almost 20 years. My wife constantly tells me I do not support her or validate her feelings, and in fact never have over the course of our marriage. This includes supporting her when she went back to school for several years with three children at home and I worked full time. I changed my work schedule to be home when she had class. Her emotions and...
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Is this Possible Schizophrenia or Puberty?

Hello there…I am a 15 year old female…I just started high school in my country and here for the past 5 months I have been dealing with a serious problem…You see I tend to hear voices every single day. It wasn’t that much of a problem it sure is now…I hear them INSIDE of my head although sometimes I can HEAR them with my ears. But only a few words such as “never”...
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Personality Issues?

From South Africa: My BF always tells me a have a very unique personality. On the one hand I know there is something wrong, because it’s just not normal, but on the other it seems right to me, because that’s how I feel and express myself. Many people have asked me: “do you even have a heart?” because it doesn’t look like it to them. I personally don’t care a bit about other people,...
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Mass Anxiety Pains

I was diagnosed with BPD, GAD and MDD a few years ago, and  different therapists have speculated about quite a few other disorders without officially diagnosing any of them. I’ve both read and been told that anxiety can cause physical pain in the back, stomach and chest. I’ve been suffering from extreme pains in my back and chest, along with intense burning, constant restlessness and inability to relax, and stomach pain/discomfort and nausea for...
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My Parents Are Ruining My Life

Hello, I really need help and I am glad I found your website. I’ll just pour it out. I am an Indian living in a small town in the Philippines, my family is the only foreigner in this town, so it’s pretty small. My parents are really strict and don’t like Filipinos and their lifestyles but I like it, they wont let me hangout with my friends ,they just make me sit at home,...
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Fiancé Lying to Me

I’m having a problem just now that my partner and I get married in 7 months and I’m starting to question if we should even stay together. I told him lies are what hurt me and for our relationship to work he needs to be honest, as I have borderline personality disorder. We nearly broke up a few months ago when I caught him lying and swearing on his life about contacting his ex....
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I Don’t Know if My Mother Is Abusive or if It’s Just Me

I’m writing about this problem because I don’t know if my mother is actually abusive or if what I’m experiencing is just normal. My mother is always blaming me for her feelings. She never apologizes or admits that she is wrong. When I ask her to apologize she becomes mad and starts telling me how disrespectful I am and how many things she does for me. Most of these things are to manipulate me...
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