Ask the Therapist About Borderline

Do I Have Borderline Personality Disorder or Am I Just Overreacting?

From Sweden: I apologize in advance as I know this question has been asked, but I feel like I have not gotten the answer I’m looking for. What leads me to suspect I have at least traits of BPD: -Impulsivity: I have been impulsive since I was a binge-eat, (purge), I’ve had unprotected sex, impulsive romantic interests, I chose what I wanted to work with on impulse, it’s hard to stop the impulsivity,...
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How Do I Help My Depressed Mom?

From Iran: I am very frustrated right now because my 57-year-old mom is very depressed, which by the way is not a new topic, yet it bothers me so much. She is always tired and sad. She is sad because her knee hurts and she is frightened to go for a surgery although she has so much trouble walking, nobody helps around the house, my grandma visits her everyday and drives her crazy, dad...
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Why Do I Engage in Attention-Seeking Behavior?

Hello. So here’s the thing: I noticed I’m an attention seeker a long time ago and I cannot understand why. My childhood has not been perfect, but it has been pretty good. My parent and my friends love me. I certainly can’t complain. I think even as I kid I’ve always wanted to be noticed but positively. As I grew older I started to want sympathy, perhaps even more than praise. I would often...
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Anger, Hate, Violent Urges

Really bad temper. Gets angry easily. Enjoys the thought of beating the crap out of the people I hate (which is a lot, most for unreasonable things), have had dreams of doing this, have fantasized about beating them with hard, blunt objects, or slicing them with knives,sometimes harming them with fire. But mostly I imagine doing it with my bare hands. I get all excited and pumped and get hot flashes and my heart...
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I Need Advice on What to Do

I have been feeling a bit out of the loop lately. I constantly feel under a lot of pressure, and I don’t know how to cope properly. I ashamed to say that I have used “improper” ways of coping. I “coped” by relapsing (cutting), which I felt uncomfortable after a day or two because I hadn’t cut in a while. I “coped” by ignoring important and difficult tasks needed to be done and right...
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Worried Partner Has White Knight Syndrome

I’m divorced (6 years now) and dating a divorced man who seems to be a pretty great guy. However, I have some reservations. My SO is 11 years my senior, and was married for 17 yrs before having an affair with a woman 20 yrs his junior. He volunteered this information, saying he wanted me to know upfront. While I find it problematic, I empathize with the fact that his wife had denied him...
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I Like Seeing Blood

Hello! I don’t know what’s going on with me, but since a few months, I have been really enjoying looking at blood… I don’t know for sure when it started, but one evening I grabbed a pair of compasses and I stabbed the pointy end in my hand. I really enjoy looking at the way the blood pours out of the wound. I have done this several times in the past few months, but...
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Do I Have Borderline Personality Disorder?

From the : I come from a family with a mom who suffers from major depression and would purposely withhold affection so that I wouldn’t turn out gay. My dad was diagnosed schizotypal, and depressed. They were both addicts of drugs, alcohol, tabacco, and my dad was a sex addict. My father’s addictions ended up killing his liver and after spending eight years in and out of hospitals from the damage he’d done, he...
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Elderly Relative in Long-Term Therapy

I am a “sandwiched” middle aged mom, placed in the somewhat awkward position of helping my aging mother-in-law. She has been in therapy all of her adult life. She was abused as a child and has suffered from various psychiatric and emotional problems (depression, borderline personality, hoarding/compulsive acquiring). My question is this: how do psychiatrists keep family members in the loop when someone with existing psychiatric problems starts to show signs of possible cognitive...
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Do I Have BPD or Is It Just OCD and Hypochondria?

I was diagnosed with OCD when I was very young maybe 12 or 13. I have had an on again off again relationship with Meds I mostly have intrusive thoughts and anxiety. I am currently back on meds but recently I have been going through a very hard time after moving to a new state and experiencing a few traumatic life events. I was abused regularly by my father and he eventually committed suicide....
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BPD Is Ruining My Relationship

From Antigua: Hey, at a point I started to feel that I was loosing it. I have BPD and it is ruining my relationship with the people I love. It already ruined my relationship with my boyfriend and there is nothing I can do to fix it. Right now I just want to focus and practice loving me and accepting who I am. My break-up was very hard for me to under go. I’ve...
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Does My Mother Have a Mental Illness Problem?

From Australia: I am losing hope and no one I contacted can give me help because no one knows what I’m going through which brings me here. I have no idea if my mother is ill or not, I feel very sorry for her because of this. She is a single and very lonely 55 year old. I still live with her, but planning to move out as soon as possible because of her...
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