My dad has abused me emotionally physically and verbally since i was born and i am now 13 1/2. The physical abuse has stopped but the verbal and emotional abuse hasn't and i am scared! I threatened my father that i would call CPS but I was too scared to. I am so scared he will start getting worse again! I have thought of suicide, but that scares me too much! I also have thought of asking a judge for less time with him, but i still love my dad because he is my dad and i know that that would really hurt him badly. What do I do (since i can't leave the house because i am ...  
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Hello. My husband and I have been in a relationship off and on for 15 years, we have been married for 4 years and have 4 children. I was raised in a very abusive family and my husband was raised in a very dysfunctional one. Our relationship has always been rocky - one extreme or another, never calm or inbetween. It has been violent physically, to the point where I've had him arrested and pressed charges. He is an alcoholic and that has caused a lot of problems. A few months ago, he wrecked our car and we did not have insurance. Already on a tight budgeted income, I've had to look for work to help pay for these debts. This last weekend he ...  
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I consider my father abusive. He never stops yelling...I'm 14 and I have two younger siblings by the way.Anyway, my dad is constantly yelling and saying mean things to either me or my brother. He yells at my mom too, but most of it is targeted at me or my brother. Where as he has never actually hit me, he always displays his disapproval of me. He yells at me how i always disappoint him and tells me that i'm bad at everything i do. The worst he ever did was when i didn't clean me room to his standards and he came in a yelled and yelled and yelled at me...he backed me into a corner and kept asking me what my problem ...  
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how do i stop cutting? i have been doing it for 4 years now. some people tell me i just do it for attention. i do it because im always angry. i have tried some other techniques but nothing works. what can i do?

A: Cutting feels so bad, it feels good. It distracts you from your anger and relieves tension. Unfortunately, it becomes a very bad habit that can even become life-threatening. You've been doing it for 4 years! My guess is that it is such an automatic response to stress by now that you have lost control of it.

You've already taken an important first step by acknowledging that it has become a problem. Now you need to get some

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Q. I get mad all the time and it is usually just little things that set me off like while i was at school today my little brother destroyed my room and got all my things all over the floor and that made me verry mad and i went to talk to my mom about it i started yelling and she took away my cell phone witch just made me more mad and i came to my room and i was hitting th walls and throwing things around and i was going to cut my wrist and then i got on your website and was going to see if you could help before i did something stupid and this is not the first time it ...  
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Q: My husband and I have been married for almost three years. We dated for over six years before we married. I felt like I knew him so well and we would be fine. I knew he had a temper (at times)but overall he is an amazing person. He really is very loving and kind overall. Sometimes though (more frequently recently) he gets SO angry. He curses at me and calls me names. I feel like he really hates me at those moments. He doesn't hit me he just yells a lot and I can tell he is FURIOUS! He gets angry when things don't go his way. He's fine if all is well but if ...  
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My fiance and I met at college 5 years ago and had a brief, wonderful, relationship at the time before she left college and spent two years travelling around the world. We stayed friends during this time and often emailed each other, sometimes speaking over the phone, also. We both led separate lives, her travelling and me entering into a relationship with my ex-partner which lasted four years.

We always joked that we would get married someday. My relationship with my ex was not working, so my fiance and I met about eighteen months after she returned from travelling and as a result, I split from my partner and we embarked on our current relationship. Our relationship has surpassed my expectations in many ways, and

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6YRS AGO MY HUSBAND BECAME DISABLED(BLIND). SINCE THEN WE HAVE HAD MANY PROBLEMS. THE WORST ARE HIS AFFAIRS. TWO YRS AGO HE MOVED IN W/HER AND ASKED FOR A DIVORCE. A MONTH LATER HE SAID HE WAS SORRY, THAT HE LOVED ME, AND THAT HE WAS WRONG FOR WHAT HE DID. LIKE A FOOL I BELIEVED HIM. SINCE THEN, THINGS HAVE BEEN NO BETTER HE STILL HAS LOTS OF ISSUES WITH HIS BLINDNESS WHICH OF COURSE ARE MY FAULT. I HAVE HELPED THIS MAN MORE THEN I SHOULD HAVE. MY FRIENDS TELL ME TO LEAVE HIM. HE DOES NOT APPRECIATE ALL THE THING I DO FOR HIM. THE PROBLEM IS HE STARTED ANOTHER AFFAIR BECAUSE HE ...  
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i have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and i love him more than anything.i know that he had a tough childhood and his parents were divorce when he was very young. after all this time that we are together even though i know he loves me but he has truble showing his feeling to me and all people around him. i am happy with him most of the times but when he gets upset he screams and gets out of control and it has happened a few times that he broked his own stuff. when we argue i dont even scream and im calm but when i see he is screaming and mad i think that maybe its a mistake that im with ...  
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I am not printing your letter for your protection.

I hope you have a password. Writing to me on a computer your husband has access to is very, very dangerous. Please delete the history in your computer and only use a library computer for this type of mail.

You need to call the Domestic Violence hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). There are people there 24/7 who can help you figure out what you need to do and how. Please call them as soon as you are in a safe place to do so.

You are definitely in danger. You owe it to your children and yourself to get out of the situation as quickly as you can.

I wish you well. Dr. Marie

I have been in an abusive relationship for about 3 years now. My daughter is 6, when the abuse started she was 3. At first I thought this was something temporary and it will go away. I know for sure NOW this is not something that actually will NEVER go away. I am very concern about how it is affecting daughter mentally and emotionally. This was not her issue it was my issue, and she got dragged into the abuse. Please don't say I have to get out because I know I have to get out of here ASAP; I just can't right now. My problem is I am waiting on my green card interview and I can not move out at all until I ...  
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Q: I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and a half now and we have lived together for about 6 months. He does have a bad temper and sometimes throws things during fights and other things of that nature, but I just always thought he had a temper and that was just that. But, come to find out the more I talked to his brother and mostly his sister in law they have told me many things about his childhood (they are 10 years older than him). His father was never around, he does drugs and is an alcoholic and verbally/emotionally abused his mother and my boyfriend when he was very small, up until about age 7 and still to this ...  
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