Ask the Therapist About Anger Management

Fiancée Went Through Photos

Inadvertently, my memory card containing 600 photos was placed in fiancée’s phone. She went through all of them (something I have not done) and found a picture from 6 years ago of an ex-girlfriend in a bathing suit. She is mad that I did not go through photos previously and delete. She feels disrespected. I am also very angered. It is my opinion that upon seeing the disk did not belong to her she...
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Older Sister Neglected as a Child and Is Now Having a Baby

My sister, M– is in the middle of me and my brother and I am the youngest. We are all 4 years apart. Our parents divorced when M– was in her mid-teens. Mom was angry constantly and condescending to my father. My father was wounded, emotional, but my sister would later describe him as “disgustingly weak”. I remember coming to my sister during this time crying, hoping to share in our sadness about our...
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How to Help Boyfriend Who Just Told Me He Was Molested Several Times As A Child

My boyfriend just told me that he was abused as a child by several different people. One of the predators was a family friend, one was a classmate, and one was a family member. He told me his parents were angry with him for not speaking up sooner and basically blamed him. He is a very sweet man and extremely overprotective of his little brother because one of his molesters threatened to do the...
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Do I Have Borderline Personality Disorder or Am I Just Overreacting?

From Sweden: I apologize in advance as I know this question has been asked, but I feel like I have not gotten the answer I’m looking for. What leads me to suspect I have at least traits of BPD: -Impulsivity: I have been impulsive since I was a binge-eat, (purge), I’ve had unprotected sex, impulsive romantic interests, I chose what I wanted to work with on impulse, it’s hard to stop the impulsivity,...
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I Lack the Feeling of Embarrassment

From the : I’m 30 and have never experienced the feeling of being embarrassed or shame. I constantly read and see the word (embarrassment) in books or TV, but I have never identified with it. When growing up, I actually thought the feeling of anger (which I experience quite often) and the feeling of embarrassment were one and the same thing. I now realize from my past that in situations were I was supposed...
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I Hate to Be Seen in Public

From the : I hate to be seen in public, I am very self conscious. I always feel like I am fat. I always think of worst case scenarios, for example, my husband will leave to go to the store and I’ll worry that he’ll get in car accident. I worry a lot that my children will hate me when their older. When ever someone asks me for advice I am always negative. I...
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Anger Issue or Self-Esteem Issue?

I dated someone normal and emotionally stable for over 5 years. We never fought, I was extremely bored (person did not have much education, not many friends) and felt unsatisfied emotionally and sexually. Now for the last 8 months I have been in relationship with someone just the opposite: very passionate, handsome, smart, charismatic, but emotionally unstable. We fight way too much for different reasons. I feel like I love him, but I am...
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Anger Issues?

Is this “normal” or do I have a dysfunction? Sometimes, over nothing, after working myself up into almost unnoticeable stress — even to me — I lose it. I start screaming at the top of my lungs, tearing things apart, not quite smashing things and destroying everything, but I lose care and caution around things that I love like my drawings or my books and that usually ends up with them getting damaged in...
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Need Advice about Apology

To Whom It May Concern: I am writing to request advice regarding an issue I have with my current GP. I have a regular GP and have been generally dissatisfied with responses to my questions and information given in regards to my injury/ sickness. However overall my GP has been fairly good and I think the unsatisfactory answers may be due to my doctor being sick of seeing me. Today I visited my regular...
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My Ex-Boyfriend Keeps Texting My Current Boyfriend Bad Things about Me

I’ve been with the current bf for 2 years. He started not paying attention to me & neglecting me. We don’t live together. 2 months ago I started texting & chatting with my ex in a non flirtatious way because I needed someone to talk to that knows me & my life situations. My current bf went out of town & kept blatantly choosing things other than me that were hurtful. Ex invited me...
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Confused: Am I Just Bored?

From the start I’ve been a self conscious person with a short fuse. I get frustrated very easily and hate a lot of people, so me I don’t even speak to, just watch. Around 2 years ago I started isolating myself safe at home to read on my phone and around that time I also started having speaking difficulties that became very embarrassing. I still have them now but it’s not as bad. For...
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