Ask the Therapist About Abuse - Page 4

Fantasizing

I catch myself fantasizing about ways to hurt someone who hurt me. Who betrayed me. My cousin slept with my fiance, I trusted my married cousin I thought cousin had more respect. But I was fooled this has been almost 4 yrs ago and I am still angry. Why do I fantasize about this? A: Thanks for your email. Betrayal is one of the core elements we react to as human beings. This is...
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Victim of a Sociopath

I have broken up with my ex girlfriend who I consider to be a sociopath through research I’ve done on the subject after she left. I found she has a criminal record and I’m talking to police about her illegal activity while we were together, both against me and others. The problem I’m having is I don’t feel the authorities are taking the matters seriously and I think it’s because I’m a male and...
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Is this Stockholm Syndrome?

From New Zealand: Hi, I’m just after some pointers of where to start researching and maybe some advice on both Stockholm syndrome and parental alienation. I have been separated from my daughter’s (9) father for 7 years. She has had regular contact with her dad until the last few months. She has been with me full time due to a domestic assault happening in his house (this is the 6th assault). My daughter has...
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Elderly Relative in Long-Term Therapy

I am a “sandwiched” middle aged mom, placed in the somewhat awkward position of helping my aging mother-in-law. She has been in therapy all of her adult life. She was abused as a child and has suffered from various psychiatric and emotional problems (depression, borderline personality, hoarding/compulsive acquiring). My question is this: how do psychiatrists keep family members in the loop when someone with existing psychiatric problems starts to show signs of possible cognitive...
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Friend Can’t Tell Reality from Fantasy

I worked for a woman (estranged) who seriously believes she’s a fictional character, she can’t tell the difference between reality and fantasy. She has since convinced two of her female staff they are men and is forcing them into sexual situations with her. She won’t say she’s a lesbian even though she calls her clearly female partners men (she just forces them to dress like men). When she first met these girls she refused...
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What Is the Definition of “Daddy Issues”?

From the : The “daddy issue” is a problem and no professionals seem to have done research on it or come up with an actual term for it. When I say”daddy issue” I mean a the effects on a child of a father is abusive, absent, in and out. Also, how and where to get help. Everyone has their opinion about what it is, but why isn’t there a professional talking about this problem?...
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Alcoholic Mother, Enabler Father, Newly Married and Trying

Long story short: My mother is a severe substance abuser (alcohol and pills) with depression and anxiety. She self harms, and mixes alcohol and pills. She is emotionally abusive by getting strung out and then doing the “woe is me, I am a bad mother” thing while i am picking her up off the floor. My father enables her by only blaming others and believing she is okay when she is not- even telling...
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Where Can I Find Help?

I was molested for several years as a child. I can’t stop lying about EVERYTHING. I abuse alcohol. I feel a constant need for attention and validation. Sometimes I’m suicidal. I have a never ending sexual appetite. I cry hysterically when I’m alone. I feel distant from everyone around me. I have chronic violent nightmares. I see and hear things. I crave attention and validation. I have a laundry list of irrational fears and...
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My Life Feels like It Has Been Messed Up Since the Beginning

From a teen guy in the : I have had what one would call a rough life. Recently my step-dad and mom have been fighting and it’s becoming almost everyday. And I am scared about what’s going to happen. I’ve already ended up being abused in my step-grandmother’s house. Then was stuck in a hallway and slept in a sleeping bag where I would go to school smelling like mildew and ammonia. I have...
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I Have an Anger Issue and My Girlfriend Is Scared

Hi. I have a history of having a relatively short temper, normally this is just shouting or nothing serious. But occasionally when I get angry I lash out physically, so I’ll hit walls or pull on my hair but I’ve never hurt anyone and it’s always been in private so no one knows this has been happening. About a month ago my girlfriend told me something that made me angry. I could feel myself...
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I Am Tired and Alone

I am from India but now in the USA for MBA. After divorcing I went back for the sake of kids. I thought that maybe divorce shall teach the importance of family to my former wife. She persisted with boyfriends (reason for divorce), more than one. The latest affair of my wife was brought to fore by my elder kid (14 years old). He understands and told me that “mom talks every night and...
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I Have Trouble Functioning

From the : I lose track of time……I cant focus on one thing at a time…I go from one topic to another then back to an earlier a few minutes…all everyday tasks seem overwhelming….then if I get one done its such a big wonder why it seemed such a big deal. Im a big procastinator because everything seems overwhelming. I feel like a zombie sometimes. I stay home only go out because...
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