Abuse Articles

Multiple Issues – What’s Wrong with Me?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, January 23rd, 2013
I have been having issues with trust, jealousy, suspicion, depression and anxiety for as long as I can remember. I am a 28 year old female. I have seen many counselors but have yet to be diagnosed with anything. I was sexually abused by family ...

6-Year-Old Touching 4-Year-Old Brother

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013
My 6-year-old son has always been an exhibitionist and always the child who pulls his pants down or touches himself to get a laugh or reaction. All my kids went through this short phase but for him it has seemed to linger longer than i ...

[Video] Am I A Psychopath?

By Julie Hanks, LCSW on Sunday, January 20th, 2013
When I was in elementary every time someone angered me I had the urge to stab them. Sometimes I have wishful thinking such as wanting to go back in time and become a queen so I can kill and torture millions. Being careless and not ...

Confusing Feelings

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, January 16th, 2013
I don't know how I feel; my feelings and actions are confusing to me. Okay. So this is probably going to be long and confusing for everyone reading this. I have a hard time expressing my feelings, and maybe it's genetic because apparently my mother ...

[Video] My Boyfriend Is Becoming Abusive

By Julie Hanks, LCSW on Tuesday, January 15th, 2013
My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 yrs and 4months. Dated for 1 yrs before we moved in together. In the beginning we had issues but we worked through them and things have been really great. But as of a few months ago ...

Where Did the Love Go?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, January 6th, 2013
My husband was my first, and only boyfriend,and lover. We both came from sad, unstable, lonely childhoods, and when we were young adults, we sort of clung together for dear life. I was 19 when we moved in together, and I got pregnant. ...

Mother Won’t Leave Us Alone

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Saturday, January 5th, 2013
My sister and I live together with a roommate in a town about 2 hours by car from our mother. Every three or four months Mom expects to come to our apartment and stay a week or so. She calls it her "vacation ...

6-Year-Old Knows Too Much

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, December 30th, 2012
My husband and I overheard my six year old and my three year old sons talking about 'kissing' each other's penises. When we asked them about this, my three year old said that the six year old kissed his yesterday but that he didn't ...

Afraid to be Open with Therapist

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, December 28th, 2012
I recently started seeing a therapist at my University because of anxiety, and I want to tell her about something that happened 4 years ago that I've never told anyone. I was 15. My boyfriend wanted me to give him oral sex, which I'd never ...

Reoccurring Past Issues

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Friday, December 28th, 2012
I grew up in an abusive household. I have been in and out of therapy for around twenty years. I have begun another bout of depression and find that much of the stuff I have worked on before is plaguing me again. Will these issue ...

My Wife Is Explosive

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, December 27th, 2012
I am writing to find a manner to cope with or gain insight into my wife's behavior. There are probably multiple areas but I will attempt to summarize in the allotted space. Today she went into a tirade which concluded with her typical threat to leave ...

Afraid of Middle-Aged Men

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Wednesday, December 26th, 2012
Back story of my problem. When I was a child my step-father molested me. Since then, I have this irrational fear of white middle-aged men that are bigger than me. As soon as they grow elderly and feeble that fear dissipates, and up until they ...