Ask the Therapist About Abuse - Page 3

Jealousy/Self Esteem Issues Is Taking Over My Life

I have been with my current boyfriend for 1 year and 3 months now (my longest/only serious relationship) And since I was the age of 4 or 5 I have always had self esteem issues because of my sister constantly calling me fat and ugly saying that no one will ever love me. Then getting her friends in on it by calling me slut and telling me to go cut myself like the little...
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Haunted by Memories of Childhood Abuse

From Canada: I’m in my 50s and was sexually abused by a family member as a child. I told no one about it until I was in my early 20’s. Some of my memories of the abuse are vivid and clear. Some of them are disjointed. When I was about 10 years old, I had a dream. In the dream, my abuser was raping me, and in the weird way dreams are, I was...
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Dating Phobia — HELP!

For as long as I can remember I’ve been this way. I have always resisted the idea of dating and being in a relationship. And don’t get me wrong, I’ve had a handful of crushes growing up and a couple have been mutual. But my fear of dating is so intense that I panic and cope by becoming mean and closed off to make them change their #8217;m sure the way I was raised...
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Stepson Watches Women while They Sleep

From the : I have lived with my boyfriend and stepson for 6 years. My stepson is now 19 years old and my 12 year old daughter also lives with us. I have caught my stepson numerous times watching me, my daughter and most recently a female friend of mine while we sleep. It is always the same — you wake up with him standing over you, and when he realizes he has been...
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Repetition of Childhood Behavior

My husband was abused as a child. When things got bad he would runaway. He continues that same behavior as a grown adult. When there is any conflict, he leaves and will not come back until I apologize, regardless of any fault. He claims he will always do this. How do work through this? A: Thank you for your email. Your husband’s emotional reaction would indicate he is stuck emotionally with the only coping...
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Is This DID?

From New Zealand: I’m a 12 year old girl and i have been traumatized throughout my childhood up until i was about 8 years old. I’ve been going to counselling since i was 10 and everybody i see (including my own family) have told me that i have been traumatized even though i don’t feel traumatized at all. I cant even remember the amount of times ive tried to tell my family that i...
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16 and Unsure of Mental State

From Romania: I’m 16 and i live in romania. I’m not sure if i am depressed or bipolar. People have noticed i have mood swings often. I can go from happy to sad or frustrated for no reason. Essential to know is that I had a tough childhood not that bad but pretty abusive and i was a little bit anti social mainly because i was bullied. In other words, my life had fallen...
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Victim of a Sociopath

I have broken up with my ex girlfriend who I consider to be a sociopath through research I’ve done on the subject after she left. I found she has a criminal record and I’m talking to police about her illegal activity while we were together, both against me and others. The problem I’m having is I don’t feel the authorities are taking the matters seriously and I think it’s because I’m a male and...
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Is There Hope for a Better Future in My Relationship?

From the : After 5 years of unhappiness, is there hope for a better future in my relationship? My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years now. The first day we met, he and I had the opportunity to interact a lot and instantly sparked a deep connection with one another. That same night he stayed over and we kissed. The next two days were a repetition of the first day. On...
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Emotional/Verbal Abuse…and His Mother Makes it Worse!

My husband suffers from depression which manifests as anger, and he is emotionally/verbally abusive. I am trying to help him work through everything, but his mother is making it harder. When I talk to her about our problems, she says stuff like “Well, he just has a short temper like his father,” or “Well, he wouldn’t ever talk to me that #8221; Also, his parents are the main reason for his mental instability. It’s...
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