Abuse Articles

Mother Is Depressed

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, December 9th, 2014
My mother has had a terrible childhood. Her father was always drunk and she witnessed him beat her brothers because he was jealous that his wife (my mom's mother) was paying too much attention to them. My mother also grew in intense poverty (she fixed ...

My Boyfriend has Been Angry Since We Moved in Together

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, December 7th, 2014
From the U.S.: My boyfriend and I have been together for over 3 years, and we just moved in together this summer. Normally, we get along pretty well. We have so much fun together. He is funny, sweet, a hard worker, smart, and my best ...

Am I Being Abused or Am I Crazy?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, December 6th, 2014
This is going to be very long but I really, really, really need help. I have been married for 16 yrs. My husband has been addicted to one thing or another our whole marriage. First it was gambling, then weed, followed by alcohol and cocaine ...

My Dad Watches Me at Night

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, December 5th, 2014
From a 15 year old in the U.S.: During my sleep, sometimes my hand is inside in my shorts. Or sometimes inside my underwear unconsciously. I am not sure how this started. Anyways, I was sleeping and felt like someone was watching me. So, I ...

Dual Relationship with Therapist Is a Mess

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, December 1st, 2014
From the U.S.: I have been in a dual relationship with my therapist for about 4.5 years, and things are falling apart and I don't trust her and I am becoming more afraid of confronting her. She has also befriended my boyfriend and is going ...

Is It Ok that My Father Asks Me for a Hug When No One’s Around?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, November 30th, 2014
I'm from India, aged 23. My father is a good man. He has never done any such thing to me, but I still don’t understand, is it ok if he asks me for a hug (and ya, "at times", a tight hug)? I mean just ...

I Was Molested by My Older Brother

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Sunday, November 30th, 2014
From the U.S.: I'm currently considering seeing a counselor but am somewhat discouraged because I'm not sure if it will actually help. I was molested by my older brother when I was in, I believe, the first grade. I've only recently started talking to close ...

I Need Help/Advice

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, November 28th, 2014
From the U.S.: Married 18 years...separated 3 months due to his drug use and abusive behavior. I as well as he knew he would not be welcomed at my sisters home, which is where me and our 16 yr old daughter are now staying in ...

My Boyfriend Has a Suspicious Nature

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, November 28th, 2014
From the U.K.: this is regarding my boyfriend...he doesnt believe me i feel...he always suspect me of being online chatting with somebody else...he will be checking my facebook messages my chat histories...always complaint me of being online late night even though i am not...because of ...

I Have Frequent Violent & Sadistic Thoughts Toward Living Things

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, November 27th, 2014
When I look at weaker, living things, I like to imagine how it'd feel to crush it in my hands, or how pleasurable it'd feel if I wrapped my hands around their necks. I desire to see their fear and pain; their eyes widening in ...

Brothers Showed Sexual Interest in Me

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Wednesday, November 26th, 2014
From Kuwait: When I was about 12, my older brother would want to hang out and watch movies and stuff, while we were watching he would pull his penis out. He wouldn't really do anything or try to touch me, it was just there and ...

I Need Help for My Grandmother

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, November 24th, 2014
From Nepal: My grandmother is at the age of 70s. She is over dominating and enjoys when she creates disputes in the house everyday. She does not feel any shame publicizing family matters openly and badly abusing family members. She has superiority complex for no ...