Abuse Articles

Abusive Mother

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, August 12th, 2014
I am coming to this page because I have nowhere else to turn. My whole life my mother has been very impatient, belittling, and narcissistic. As a child, I thought her actions were normal but the older I got, the more aware I became of ...

I Have A Strong Urge To Kill People

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
My step-sister has been here a week now (she lives with her mother) and at night she always falls asleep before me. While she's asleep I get this strong urge to go get a knife from the kitchen and just stab her to death. No, ...

Oversensitive and Begging for Love

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Thursday, August 7th, 2014
I have been told by my husband that I am over sensitive. I cry a lot, a lot of his "jokes" make me feel bad about myself. When he is mad, he treats me in a nasty, rude way. Most of the times it is ...

My Fiancé Is Depressed

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, August 6th, 2014
My fiancé and I have been in love for the past 5 years and we have had a very close and trusting relationship. He developed depression 4 months ago. He is taking medication and I'm doing all I can to help him. I know the ...

Am I Making Too Much of What Happened to Me?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, August 4th, 2014
From India: There are a no. Of issues: 1. When I was a little girl, I was pretty cute and many guys took advantage of me, even my cousin used to slide his hands under my top. In a public place once a man slid ...

My Mother Abuses My Younger Siblings

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
From the U.S.: How do I handle my mother's frequent age-inappropriate behavior and questionable parenting techniques? As you read, it is important to keep in mind that my mother’s public persona of "caring and attentive parent" is carefully constructed and presented in the presence of ...

Suppression of Emotions Concerning My In-Laws

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Thursday, July 31st, 2014
I think my emotions are suppressed and its taking a toll on me and my relationship with my spouse. I can never say what I intend to say as the people around me do not accommodate that as I live with my in-laws. My privacy ...

Suspect My Partner Has a Personality Disorder

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW on Sunday, July 27th, 2014
I have a close friend, who became my lover about a year ago. Recently he cheated on me (had an affair with a colleague), and I was/am terribly hurt, as I was his absolute best friend. In addition, in the past few months he has ...

I’ve Been in a Crazy Relationship

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Saturday, July 26th, 2014
From the U.S.: I live in SF for two years where I met my ex who is from Turkey more than a year ago. We felt in love crazily everything seemed ok beside a couple things which my naivity was explaining as cultural difference and ...

Can’t Stop Thinking about Men Hurting Me

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Saturday, July 26th, 2014
I constantly make up scenarios in my head about a school teacher I had 8 years ago, each one contains an accident where he hits me or a misunderstanding whereby I think he's going to hurt me. In these scenarios the school teacher has to ...

How Do We Confront Our Eldest Son about Abusing His Siblings?

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Friday, July 25th, 2014
There has been an ongoing issue between our 3 sons.  The eldest along with his wife & daughter live with us and can't seem to get on their feet after losing their son to SIDS 6 years ago....

Emotional Abuse in Childhood

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Thursday, July 24th, 2014
Hello all and thank you for having this option "ask the therapist". To be brief, I am 26 years old, I am the oldest child with a younger brother. My parents have recently divorced but their relationship was always awful, filled with physical, ...