Abuse Articles

I Lied to My Fiance about My Past

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Tuesday, September 16th, 2014
From the U.S.: My fiance and I have been together for 4 years. When we first got together he told me everything about his past (I didn't ask him) and asked me to do the same. From early on he would always tell me "girls ...

Problems Because of Parents but I Can’t Tell Them

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Sunday, September 14th, 2014
Half of my problems are because of my parents but I cant tell them because I know they have done so much for us. I have had issues with my mum since I was 9 or 10 years old, being called stupid...

Boyfriend Is an Alcoholic

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Saturday, September 13th, 2014
This man's entire house is 2500 sq.ft. with a bed and boxspring only in his room with a motley assortment of desks and dressers, ALL the furniture except the couch are castoffs from his parents, he keeps his childhood things in the basement, uses utensils ...

Boyfriend/Relationship Issue

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, September 12th, 2014
Hello, I just want to give you background of where the issues began. My boyfriend and I have only been officially together for about 6 months but started dating/sleeping together a year and half ago. Last September we were going to start taking it to ...

I Keep Losing Time

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Friday, September 12th, 2014
From Canada: Ok, I really don't know what to do. I've been losing time. It started two years ago, but it would only be for a few minutes. It's gotten worse lately. It could be anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours. I'm ...

Boyfriend Troubles

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, September 7th, 2014
I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. At the beginning of the relationship he was very attached. We would spend every day together and had no problem with it. After a few weeks of dating he became very controlling ...

My Boyfriend Accuses Me of Cheating Every Day

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Monday, September 1st, 2014
My boyfriend has accused me of cheating everyday and I haven't. He says that it's the way I look at men. He gets very upset and very angry at me to the point I cry and have seizures. We have been dating for almost a ...

Relationship Issue

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Saturday, August 30th, 2014
I have been dating Jack for about two years. Recently, we have been discussing marriage, but there is an issue and I don’t know how to resolve it. I have been in two other long term relationships before Jack: one was for a ...

Boyfriend Needs Help

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, August 29th, 2014
I think my boyfriend might have a mental illness. How can I talk to him about it? How can I get him help? I'm afraid that when I talk to him about it he will become angry and push me away or leave the relationship. ...

Is This Considered Sexual Abuse?

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker on Thursday, August 28th, 2014
From the U.S.: My brother and I grew up with a narcissistic mother. I have read online that this causes a lack of nurturance. As a result when I was 6, 7, 8 my brother and I had sexual relations. I don't remember much, but ...

I Don’t Know What’s Wrong. Mum Drinks and I’m Scared.

By Holly Counts, Psy.D. on Wednesday, August 27th, 2014
I will sum everything up quickly, over the past four or more years my mum has been drinking heavily and my dad works away so he has no power to help, my mum is abusive and very scary when she is drunk. She ...

Wasn’t Allowed to Speak

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, August 26th, 2014
My parents adopted me when I was six months old and kept me from talking as a child, but I was okay with it because they were usually working and had their business partners at the house, so I was always quiet and didn't interrupt. ...