Archives for Abuse

Anger Issues

I believe my sister may have an anger problem. She can be violent and I have scars on me from where she has scratched/pinched me. Today we were going out to see my cousin off to prom but she wouldn’t get up and get ready (she had just got back from a school camp) we kept telling her she needed to get dressed but she refused so we left without her. We then received...
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Husband Stopped Trusting Me for No Reason

I’ve been married for 7 years. I’m 31, he’s 35, and our son is 2. Over several months I have lost 40lbs. I was morbidly obese so the loss was/is necessary. My husband is a home body and I am social. We’ve always had this dynamic but it worked until recently. He started telling me he wasn’t comfortable with me going out for drinks with my girlfriends (maybe 1x/month), then I reunited with a...
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I Lied to My Boyfriend about My Past

From the : About 2-3 months into our relationship, my boyfriend continued to press me to tell him the number of men I slept with. At first, I tried to deflect the question but I had to answer him. I lied and gave him a very low number, because I knew he was a jealous man. But I felt so guilty when he said he was really glad I waited for him, so a...
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I Think My Father Is a Narcissist

From Lebanon: Growing up I thought what my dad used to do was completely normal and I had accepted the bad behavior. But by the time I grew up I realized that having someone mentally abuse us with harsh words and sometimes physical aggressiveness, it was too late. Recently he loses his mind, he spies on us all leaving devices hidden in our cars. He and my mother have been seeing other people openly,...
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Out of Control. Am I Self-Sabotaging?

I am dating a guy that I really care about, he is generally really good to me and helps me better my life in terms of school and work. The idea of him talking to other girls bothers me, a lot. I’ve behaved very “crazy” like with him. I feel impulsive, out of control. I imagine all of these threats, and even if they are real, my behavior is out of control. I’m not...
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Over-Attached to a ‘Friend-with-Benefits’

I am a male, and so is he. We were both teenagers, one apparently experimenting and the other finding his sexuality. It took years before we kissed. We were around 13-14 at the time. Every weekend after I was at his, two teenagers fumbling around and discovering themselves. I think I always loved him, right from the start, but never realised it. We parted ways for a few years, but since we attend the...
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I Want to Hurt My Aunt

Sometimes when my aunt tells me I’m a good for nothing and lots of other hurtful things, I feel like I want to hurt her, like punch her and kick her and stuff like that. I would never act on that thought because I know is not okay, but I just can help feeling that anger. She hates me because when I was 11 her husband wanted to be my boyfriend and I told...
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Was I Raped and/or Abused?

From Canada: I’m in treatment for bulimia and alcoholism and I’ve been consumed by thoughts of past events. When I was 12, a stranger touched my breast outside my shirt, and said very vulgar things to me. That isn’t sexual abuse, is it? That’s all he did. I just can’t stop thinking about it. Then, as a young adult, I had three encounters that I don’t really understand: 1. A stranger in college fondled...
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Passive-Aggressive Personality Disorder?

What are these behaviors I get from my boyfriend? Never answer a direct question, instead would say “here is what I will do”, silent treatment a lot, would always change the subject of discussion often by criticizing me, circular conversations, would interrupt & lose his temper when I was calm & logical, reason would not work, would say ‘I don’t care if I am illogical’, would get angry when I wouldn’t, would pay me...
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I Feel Betrayed. Am I Correct Feeling this Way?

So I had pretty rough childhood with my Physically and Emotionally abusive step-father. I told my mother but she just ignored me and went on pretending everything was normal. As I grew older I grew more rebellious as teens tend to do and decided I had had enough of living in fear every single day in my own house. So I ran away (I was gone for a total of 15 hours and I...
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I’m Contemptuous of My Emotionally Abusive Dad

My dad is emotionally abusive to me and my mom, has been for years. I didn’t realize in till this year after a series of conversations I had with the school councilor. When the councilor asked if I had ever feared physical violence at home was kind of an AHA moment. She also pointed out behaviors I thought were normal as abusive. That combined with my own research on emotional manipulation led me to...
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Why Am I So Mean?

A lot of people make fun of me and bully me, so in order to fit in I act cocky and conceded *that is what everyone I know is like* but the problem is I don’t know when to stop. I am rude and mean to everyone and everyone hates me. plz help. A: Thank you for your letter. Even when you are acting cocky the bullies are still controlling you. The real work...
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