Ask the Therapist About Abuse

Relationship Issues

From Malaysia: I’m in relationship with my bf 2 years. In the periods, he becomes jobless and depends on me for everything and felt anger if I mention or push him to get a job. I don’t understand the reason why he’s lying to me from the beginning of our relation. Beside this, i feel i’m not his priority person, he showing his care when the time we get in quarrel. When i feel...
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Hunger to Kill

I get a hungry feeling when I think of murder. The blood, the meat, it fascinates me. I’m always thinking of the kill. I’ve never done it though. But I’ve done horrible things that are illegal, cheated on tests, lied and had sex with other women while having a girlfriend, etc. I know I’m insane, nothing will change the psychopathy in my deranged soul. But I’d like to know why I want to shoot...
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Terrified of My Father, Nightmares that He Will Kill Me

My father has always had issues with drugs, drinking, and anger issues. All three together are just toxic. He is fine, fine, fine – for weeks/months – then will decide he doesn’t need his meds (for his anger problems) and go off them. Within a day, he is a raging lunatic. Screaming, yelling, hitting my mother, breaking doors, snapping his cell phone in half, kicking the dogs. Recently he started cheating on my mother...
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Older Sister Neglected as a Child and Is Now Having a Baby

My sister, M– is in the middle of me and my brother and I am the youngest. We are all 4 years apart. Our parents divorced when M– was in her mid-teens. Mom was angry constantly and condescending to my father. My father was wounded, emotional, but my sister would later describe him as “disgustingly weak”. I remember coming to my sister during this time crying, hoping to share in our sadness about our...
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How to Help Boyfriend Who Just Told Me He Was Molested Several Times As A Child

My boyfriend just told me that he was abused as a child by several different people. One of the predators was a family friend, one was a classmate, and one was a family member. He told me his parents were angry with him for not speaking up sooner and basically blamed him. He is a very sweet man and extremely overprotective of his little brother because one of his molesters threatened to do the...
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This Boy Is Obsessed with Me

From New Zealand: There’s this boy I met only last year like in December? We had a thing but that was it I had no further feelings for him but that didn’t stop him from stalking me and telling everyone that we go out. It may not sound like a big issue but to me it is. Its gotten to the point where he would call me on different phone numbers which I’ve blocked...
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Why Can’t My Boyfriend Let Go of My Past?

From the : I have been with my current boyfriend for about 2 years now. I had known him since freshman year and we always had a little crush on each other. However, I was on and off with an ex of mine for about two years. This ex of mine was very controlling and was very possessive of me and we would always break up but then get back together again. The longest...
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My Boyfriend’s Parents Blame Him for Problems They’re Causing

From England: My boyfriend and I met at university, and since graduating we have lived with his retired parents. They are comfortable and are helping us find our feet. I work part time and make a small contribution, my boyfriend is given a small allowance until things pick up. We are very appreciative of their support and respectful in their home. Yet, the relationship with his parents is strained. His father ignores him completely,...
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Past Promuscuity Guilt

From the : I’m a 20 year-old female, and in the past I was on the promiscuous side. My downfall started when I was 16, and was coerced into having sex with a 20-year-old guy I wasn’t even into. From there I had several more casual encounters. I acted like I wanted it, and was proud of “being a slut”, but to be honest I died a little on the inside every time. At...
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Psychological Child Abuse?

My 4 year old nephew lives with my parents and I, but since he was 2 he has called me mommy and looked to me as his mother figure. His mom is a drug addict and abandoned him and sees him only occasionally and was present when his father beat my sister. Lately, my whole family has been yelling at him and telling him I am not his mother and to stop calling me...
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Parental Neglect / Childhood

Is this normal behavior for a parent to neglect spending time with their kid(s)? Before I turned 10, my childhood was good and I have fond memories of my family hanging out / doing activities together. However, after reaching the age of 10, my father just stopped bothering to spend time with his children. Over the years he acts like he wants to hang out but when time rolls around for the activity to...
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