Q: I'm 19 and I have been dating my boyfriend for about 6 months now. We are planning to get married soon. I am very much in love with him, but I think its not all there anymore. I ran into an ex boyfriend a couple weeks ago and feelings for him came rushing back. He still has feelings for me too and wants me to do whatever makes me happy. But thing is, is that my boyfriend and I now fight so much. Everyday. I feel like we are growing apart. I want to stay with him because he has been a major part of my life and I love him, but my ex I am also crazy about. He makes me happy ...  
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Q: How do I explain this? My twelve year old son is extremely intelligent - tests advanced above grade level (he's in the 6th grade) in all subjects, especially Math, where he tests at the college level. Despite this intelligence, he can't seem to execute simple everyday tasks without being given specific instructions. Example, "which comes first, Mom, the cereal or milk in the bowl?" To tell him to "get ready for school" is not effective. I have to say, "Brush your teeth, get dressed, put your shoes on, get your backpack together..." If I don't give him specific instructions, he will be at a total standstill - not knowing how to proceed. If I tell him to "go read" his library book for required ...  
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Q: My husband and I are from two different countries and for many years we lived as expatriates in developing countries. We have two sons. After many adulteries, increasingly flagrant, he left me when I was recovering from brain surgery to live with a young, uneducated local girl. This girl is with him for a meal ticket (I have considerable proof); however, he doesn't want to see or understand. We separated and I returned home with our two sons, not because I wanted to take them from their father but because I now need to prioritise my own career, and in order to give them roots and a good education. They are in their early teens. They have never met their father's girlfriend, because I ...  
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Q: Currently my life is completely unmanageable. Im not in therapy at the moment, but do see a pdoc once in awhile for meds. I am on Luvox for OCD and my dose was just doubled. Im an alcoholic and currently not allowed to leave my house because my parents are attempting to control my drinking. Im also working on not drinking but not having too much success. I started drinking because I was depressed and wanted a way out. Now I drink a lot to try and help me function (even though it helps with some things, it makes others worse). I find that if I drink enough the night before, I can actually shower and get ready in the morning, otherwise, I cant ...  
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Q: My 8 year old son has been having "fits" whenever I leave the room when he is in the bathtub,or whenever I sit with his dad and not with him. He recently said that we hated him, he didn't deserve parents, he deserved to die, he was bad, we were going to leave him, cried for an hour until we let him sleep on the floor in our room. He is a model student at school but pushes every button of mine he can. He is fine when he is alone with his dad but not when he is with me or with both of us. I don't know what to do anymore. I am worried he is going to ...  
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Q: A friend's wife 34 had a affair with a 17 year old boy. She had been treated for depression for over a year before this and was taking paxil and xanax . When she got caught in the affair she tried to commit suicide and has since been placed in 2 psych wards. Was her judgement impaired due to the longterm depression? A: The best people to respond to this question are her doctors in the hospital who got to know her and treated her. I sincerely hope that there has been follow-up care. This woman has been struggling and needs support from her doctor, her husband, and her friends and family. The bast thing you can do as a friend to her ...  
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Q: My boyfriend is 56,has been divorced 15 yrs,has had 1 relationship 3yrs she lived 2 hrs away. She left one weekend, and never spoke to him again. When his wife left,he said he didn't know why. His next relationship,3yrs ago,they knew each other 6mos.,he wanted to marry her,stopped the wedding 1 week before. Then he tried to get back with her for 3yrs. 2nd woman also lived 2 hrs away. He asks me out, we've been together 13 mos.,no sex first 3 mos.(out of choice) H says he loves me, does not want me to leave him, and did go to a therapist every week for 2 mos. self pay.(I live 15 mins away) We are very happy when we are together. He said ...  
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Q: I just read a post where a gal is bored with her marriage. I feel the same way. My husband and I have been married for 16 years. I am bored with our sex life. I have been working at my fulltime job now for over a year and made friends. I work with a great group of guys and good friends with 2. I am the gal where I work. But friends with a few girls as well. One of the guys I work with are good friends, if not best friends. My hubby tells me I can hang out with my friends where I work. I understand he wants me to call him if I am doing that and I am ...  
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My granddaughter (7 years old, 1st grade) is having problems in school with behavior. She is extremely intelligent, reads numerous books each week on approximatly a fourth grade level. But, she has no self control, she talks (blurts out things) all the time and at inappropriate times. It's very hard to reign her in once she starts talking. She also can have a melt down if she is over stimulated, ie: the Mall with all the noise and people send her over the edge. She is in trouble at school most days. My son and his family just move back to our home town, the school she was in before moving was on the verge of expelling her (they refused to allow her to ...  
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I was with my ex for 5 months. It was the "first love" for me, so probably I was seeing more in that relationship than there really was. He left me for another girl a year ago. I should have stopped talking to him the same moment, but I was stupid and tried to make him come back to me. When the girl left him, I was by his side, but when he found another one I just couldn't stand it and told him I'd rather not see him again. I know that this sounds stupid, but my mind has no influence on how I feel. I love him, but I wasn't worth him. Everyone was telling me that time heals the wounds, but it's ...  
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I wrote to you 3 weeks ago about an issue with my boyfriend´s son ignoring me. I received an answer from Dr. Marie on April 7, 2008. She wrote what she thinks the reason is and that my boyfriend should have a man to man talk with his son about it. I told my boyfriend about her suggestion. He said he can´t force his son to like me and wanted to know what Dr Marie suggests I should do. Please advise. Thank you. A. You've been dating this man for 6 years and you've known this boy since he was 11. He's now 17 and is still being rude to you. In your last letter, you said your boyfriend believes that no matter ...  
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I was diagnosed with BPD in 2004. I feel this was in error and that not enough attention was paid to the issues I was dealing with at the time. I was serving aboard a naval ship where I was sexually assaulted and felt I was not getting help and that the crime was not being sufficiently investigated. That being the case there were outburst, that I still feel were justified, and a breakdown. The breakdown was a result of complete frustration at being almost raped then being told that my reaction lacked crying and real emotion and that I probably misunderstood his advances as force. Eventually he was convicted but I was outcast as a whiner who needed ...  
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