Author Archive for Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

My Parents Won’t Accept My Boyfriend

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, December 26th, 2014
I have read many different types of answers to this concern, but I believe my case is different. I am away for college and almost 3 years ago, I met the love of my life and have been with him for almost 2 years. He ...

I Can’t Get Up

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, December 24th, 2014
From Czech Republic: I never liked getting up for school, but in the last year the problem has become really severe. Given the opportunity, I can sleep over 14 hours, eventually waking sleep and with headaches (meaning so much sleep is probably not doing me any ...

Relationships with Borderline Personality Disorder

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, December 23rd, 2014
Yesterday, I was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder. My partner is uncertain if he wishes to remain in our relationship. We live together, and I'm uncertain how to interact with him through this. Our pattern has been for me to bargain with my behavior through ...

Forbidden Cousin Romance

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Monday, December 22nd, 2014
I’m in such a bad situation please help me. About 9 months ago my cousin and I found out that were in love, we’ve been in a relationship for about 7 months. Recently we decide that unfortunately, what were doing is wrong and we need ...

My Dad’s Unkind Words

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Sunday, December 21st, 2014
My dad is so unkind to me. He always calls me mean names like retard and bitch and fat. He tries to be a good father but nothing ever works and I can't take being near him anymore. My mom tries to get him to ...

How Do I Fix My Life?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, December 19th, 2014
I'm 17 and I can't talk to girls, I don't like talking to people except a select few that are my friends and I guess it's because of me being fat and disliked by pretty much everyone in my middle school (never bullied, was too ...

Depressed Friend

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Thursday, December 18th, 2014
Here's the thing. A very good friend of mine (20) has started acting very unusual, she's skipping classes at college, doesn't smile anymore and doesn't have the will to talk to anyone about her problem. Anytime we (my friends and I) ask her about what's ...

Searching for Happiness in My Life

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Wednesday, December 17th, 2014
For the past year, I've been struggling to be positive, happy, or feel good about myself, my life, or my relationship. I feel sad and depressed most of the time, crying almost daily. About a year ago, I moved to a new state with my ...

Can’t Approach My Wife for Sex

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Monday, December 15th, 2014
I have been living with my beloved woman for over 7 years now. We got married over a year ago. But for the past 6 years we hardly have any sex. It has been irregular and very infrequent. My wife says she needs me to be ...

Emotional Abuse from Her Therapist?

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Saturday, December 13th, 2014
Several weeks ago my wife of two years asked me for a divorce. I was shocked -- I'd thought things had been going well. Not two weeks before she had gushed to me about how excited she was to have a future with children and ...

I Think I Have ADD

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Friday, December 12th, 2014
I'm really forgetful and absent minded and as a writer I can never bring myself to finish my own projects because I get bored and try to start a new one. At school I'm terrible at math because the teacher will explain the formulas to ...

Mother Is Depressed

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP on Tuesday, December 9th, 2014
My mother has had a terrible childhood. Her father was always drunk and she witnessed him beat her brothers because he was jealous that his wife (my mom's mother) was paying too much attention to them. My mother also grew in intense poverty (she fixed ...