Author Archive for Holly Counts, Psy.D.

I’m turning 50 soon and really want to end it.

Sunday, November 25th, 2007
Q: I am getting ready to turn 50 in the next month, and ever since I can remember I have set this date to die. I no longer feel wanted or needed by anyone and ... Read more... »

Depression and suicidal thoughts

Sunday, November 25th, 2007
Q: I'm scared just writing this. I'm confused and lost and I don't know what to do. I self-harm nearly daily on my arms,wrists,neck and legs, sometimes deep, sometimes not. I'm only 13 years old ... Read more... »

Please help me put an end to my people-pleasing ways once and for all.

Sunday, November 25th, 2007
Q: I am a 27 year old woman, who is often overlooked or treated like an imbecile, because I let people walk all over me. My parents praised me as a child because I was ... Read more... »

Children and studying

Sunday, November 25th, 2007
Q: Hi, my step son is 11 years old and fortunately is a very clever boy, however every day is a constant struggle with him having to do homework, projects or studying for assessments (exams). ... Read more... »

How can I help my friend get therapy?

Sunday, November 4th, 2007
Q: My friend told me she wants to die and she doesn’t know what to do and I suggested she talk to a therapist. She agreed and said she wanted to do that but ... Read more... »

I have concerns about possible sexual abuse of a child.

Thursday, November 1st, 2007
Q: My cousin's husband's brother has done time for having sex with his stepdaughter. My cousin and her husband don't sleep together but their 4yr daughter has been sleeping with the father. He often ... Read more... »

How can I talk to my husband about sex?

Thursday, November 1st, 2007
Q: When my husband and I make love he sometimes likes to do some activities that I don't like it because sometimes when he does it it end's up hurting me. So how I ... Read more... »

Could I have been misdiagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder at age 17?

Thursday, November 1st, 2007
Q: When I was in high school I was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder shortly following my father's death. I feel that this diagnosis is inaccurate seeing as how I was in fact an emotional ... Read more... »

I am scared to come out. What do you suggest?

Sunday, October 21st, 2007
I am 21 and I have known I am gay for almost 6 years now but am too scared to tell anyone. The first 4 years of my questioning I was pretty much in denial. ... Read more... »

I told my therapist I have a suicide plan.

Sunday, October 21st, 2007
Q: A while back I told my therapist through email I have had a plan to kill myself since I was around 12. I am now 21. She hasn't really brought it up, and ... Read more... »

What do you think about a separated but co-parenting living situation?

Sunday, October 21st, 2007
Q: My relationship with my daughter's father recently ended. We were living together in a home I just bought and he decided he didn't know what he wanted. In all honesty, we've been platonic ... Read more... »

I’m confused about my BPD diagnosis.

Sunday, October 21st, 2007
Q: I've recently been diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. However, I'm very confused because while researching this and obtaining as much facts as I can, a primary trait is 'fear of abandonment'. The reason ... Read more... »