Is My Girlfriend Over Me?
I asked her friend if she is done with me and she said she has been busy with work and soccer that she forgot about me and moved on. I went on vacation or 2 weeks and this is what happened. She said she felt this way for the past 2 weeks. We used to be in love and jumped into the relationship very fast. This came out of [no]where. I told her how much I loved her and how amazing she was everyday and she said the same. 2 months ago she went through something hard. She never told me what it was but all she said is she was not happy with herself when I asked her after I found out we were over. She has a hard home life so maybe that’s part. But things were so good. I don’t know what went wrong? Please help me. This is my first relationship and I don’t know what to do to get over her.
A: I know this can be a devastating time. When we feel so strongly for someone and their reaction toward us changes it can be devastating. But to love and lose is an important life lesson. I would take the time to write them all the feelings, good and bad, that you had in this relationship, then either toss the paper away or lock it in a file on your computer. Then I would spend time being in the company of other people — and when you’re ready, ask someone new out on a date. Learning to appreciate the qualities of another person can help you unhook from this loss.
Tomasulo, D. (2014). Is My Girlfriend Over Me?. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 7, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/08/10/is-my-girlfriend-over-me/