Can’t Stop Thinking about Men Hurting Me
I constantly make up scenarios in my head about a school teacher I had 8 years ago, each one contains an accident where he hits me or a misunderstanding whereby I think he’s going to hurt me. In these scenarios the school teacher has to then convince me that he is a good person and will look after me and not hurt me. In these scenarios, I’m normally a child and I always forgive him/believe him.
In the past when I’ve been in a relationship, I’ve substituted this teacher for the man I’ve been with and when I do that I imagine myself to be my current age but again I always forgive/believe them.
I do this daily, sometimes more than once a day and I feel like it’s weird and I want to stop doing it but I don’t know how.
A: Thank you for you detailed email. I think there may be a variety of reason for this, but because there is a fusion of actual events, corrective imagery, and replacement fantasies I think an experiential therapy would have promise for being effective. Specifically I would encourage you to find an experienced psychodramatist in your area. Psychodrama is an action oriented form of therapy that uses a variety of techniques combined with theory. The British Psychodrama Association is a highly professional group that can help you find someone qualified in your area.
Tomasulo, D. (2014). Can’t Stop Thinking about Men Hurting Me. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 4, 2016, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/07/26/cant-stop-thinking-about-men-hurting-me/