Archives for July, 2014

My Mother Abuses My Younger Siblings

From the : How do I handle my mother’s frequent age-inappropriate behavior and questionable parenting techniques? As you read, it is important to keep in mind that my mother’s public persona of “caring and attentive parent” is carefully constructed and presented in the presence of everyone outside of the immediate family. I had to cut -a lot- of important information because of the word limit. My mother has severe mood swings that result in...
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I’m Insecure about My Girlfriend’s Past Relationship

I am in an almost 2 year relationship with my girlfriend. We have a great relationship that is based on a strong friendship, trust, and honesty. An issue that came up recently was something from my girlfriend’s past. It’s a long story, but I’ll try to summarize. She was in a 1-2 year relationship with a married man that was very painful for her and it all ended because he died. However, as it...
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Suppression of Emotions Concerning My In-Laws

I think my emotions are suppressed and its taking a toll on me and my relationship with my spouse. I can never say what I intend to say as the people around me do not accommodate that as I live with my in-laws. My privacy and my space is intruded at times. My anger is building up and my tolerance level has gone down. I am sending nasty msges to my husband for his...
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Does My Mother Show Signs of ADHD?

From the : My mother, age 85 and widowed, is physically healthy. But when I speak to her on the phone, she always bangs around pots and pans and all sorts of items, and answers me with little “hmm”s that tell me she isn’t really listening to me. This went on for about a year, and I finally got fed up and told her to stop what she was doing, sit down and pay...
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My Long Distance Boyfriend has Gone Off the Grid

Hi, I’m early 50’s, divorced 10 years, date often, and had a couple of long term relationships. I’m friends with my ex, have great adult kids, and figured that if “my forever guy” existed – someday I would run into him.  Well four months ago, that’s what happened. Actually, we met 2 1/2 years ago while traveling, exchanged numbers, but, never dated until a chance re-meeting. We live on opposite ends of the country. We hit it off...
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12-Year Old Viewing Odd Materials

Please help me as I am not sure where to go with this. A 12 old boy found inappropriate videos online. I check his electronics at random, and found a video of a girl being ganged up on and they put a baseball bat in her butt. I told him how this was not normal and not right. But now I found out he used the handle of a bathroom plunger in his own...
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Do I Tell My Kids About the Death of a Pet?

From the : My kids have been visiting my sister and while they were gone I ran over our pet tortoise, I am sickened by this and don’t know if I should tell them or not. Is it too much for them to think about they are 9 and 11? I don’t think I can lie to them and just say he ran away. Help please they come home today! A: Please don’t miss...
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My Wife is Being Paranoid

Hello. I am having hard time with my wife, she has some serious diagnosed paranoia and chronic anxiety. She has started to be paranoid about anything I say, like nothing is ever true that I am telling her. And now the problem has aggravated to explosive bursts of anger, and I am losing my hope, I don’t know how to cope with her, I am always “walking on eggs”. She thinks that everyone is...
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Do I Have a Personality Disorder?

I have a need for people to like me and a constant need for attention. I have lied to gain attention. Someone asked if I got off from being helpless and I’m wondering if he is right. I don’t pay attention to other people’s feelings and focus on my own and pretend that I care in order to avoid confrontation or not being liked. I am having anxiety over this and wondered what horrible...
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Is this OCD?

From Hong Kong: Hi there, I am wondering if this is characteristic of OCD. I have to do everything twice. For example, I cannot turn a light switch on just once, i have to turn it on, then off, then on again. This does not just apply to things like that. When it comes to food I have to eat the same food twice (but not on the same day). This applies to drinks...
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I Need Advice on How to Deal with Depression

I think I’ve been suffering from major depression for several years now, at times coming moments away from killing myself, is there any help I can get without having to go to a mental health professional, or do I just need to go and get it over with? A. I’m sensing that you are reluctant to seek help from a mental health professional. You shouldn’t be. We are not born knowing how to treat...
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I am Hurt and Ashamed, and So Are My Parents and Sibling

My parents have always been ashamed of me because I married the man that they did not want me to marry. And after almost 20 years of my marriage, I ended up in a divorce. My parents’ reaction was mixed — they were sad and at the same time felt I deserved it. Quickly after that I reconnected with my high school classmate. That’s when my parents panicked and wanted me to get back to...
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