I had a boyfriend from July 3013 to September 2013, I broke up with him because I heard rumors that he was cheating so I didn’t know what else to do & of course he denied the rumors but the rumors came from very close friends although they had no proof. He now has a girlfriend. About a month ago I met up with him & we hung out & also made out even though I knew I shouldn’t have but I really miss him a lot, idk if I’d call it love but I have really deep feelings for him considering he took my virginity & was my first boyfriend. He tells me he loves me & misses me k misses us but he’s still with his girlfriend. Idk what to do. Idk if I should leave him alone. But I really really want him back but I don’t see him leaving his girlfriend and I can’t stop thinking about him, I can’t move on he’s the only guy I have ever felt comfortable with & I’ve never been nervous around him.
A: Think about this: If he’s cheating on his girlfriend with you it means his capacity to make a commitment is not strong. If he is cheating on her with you — why wouldn’t he eventually be cheating on you with someone else?
Don’t set yourself up. If you want to be in a committed relationship with him tell him you don’t want to be with him while he’s still in a relationship with his girlfriend. Unless he is willing to do this you, are putting yourself in a very vulnerable and risky position.
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 7 Jun 2014
Tomasulo, D. (2014). Ex-Boyfriend Issue. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 23, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/06/07/ex-boyfriend-issue/