Attracted to Young Males
Greetings. I’m 17 from Romania and I have a really strange desire to put myself in a sexual intercourse with a young male (around the age of 10-14) and this issue has been haunting me since I was 14. I do enjoy being in the company of girls around my age, I even had a girlfriend, too but I want to completely get rid of this fantasy. I would like to mention that I can’t call for a therapist, simply because my parents will find out and I can’t risk being disclosed and thought as a freak by my family or anyone close to me. I don’t want to cause any harm to my young relatives, but it seems that this thing is taking over my body and I can’t mentally handle it.
Any help or suggestions will be gladly appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
A. In the American mental health system, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies involving sexual activity with a prepubescent child, 13 years or younger, is considered pedophilia. Pedophilia affects approximately 3 to 5% of the male population in the United States. Many individuals with pedophilia indicate their becoming aware of a sexual interest in children around the time of puberty.
I am not familiar with the specific laws in your country, but in the United States individuals who engage in sexual activity with children are prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law. Many of these individuals spend decades or longer in prison. If they are let out of prison, they face heavy restrictions regarding their residency and are mandated to report their whereabouts, sometimes on a monthly basis, to the government. This is done to protect children from further victimization.
I provided the aforementioned information to caution you about the potential risks of not proactively addressing this issue. The main concern about your sexual fantasies involving children is your potential ability to control your behavior. I base this on your admission that “this thing is taking over my body and I can’t mentally handle it.” That statement indicates that you soon may be unable to control your behavior. The fear is that you will victimize children.
At this point, you are only having fantasies but the time to act is now. You must do everything within your power to prevent yourself from acting on your fantasies. In my opinion, this involves entering professional treatment. You’re worried that your parents will find out about your fantasies if you were to go into therapy, but that shouldn’t happen. In the mental health system, privacy is a high priority. It’s also the law here in America. Except in rare circumstances, therapists are not legally permitted to reveal information that is shared between themselves and their clients. The same may be true in your country.
I hope that my response convinces you to seek mental health treatment. Counseling could assist you in controlling your behavior. Most importantly, it could prevent the harm of innocent children and or your going to prison. In cases like these it’s best to be proactive. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Randle, K. (2014). Attracted to Young Males. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 29, 2016, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/05/24/attracted-to-young-males/