Sex Question

By Daniel J. Tomasulo, PhD, TEP, MFA, MAPP

Hi, I was wondering if you could answer a sex question. My fiance has had trouble getting it up lately, and getting excited for sex, even emotionally. I suggested he talk to a therapist, since he will not talk to me. He wants me to attend therapy as well, but I feel uncomfortable with that, also I know this sounds mean and I know there’s me to blame as well, but I just feel that it’s more his issue to work out with his therapist. Am I wrong to feel this way?

A: You are not wrong for feeling this way, but going with your boyfriend to therapy at least once will show support. This is a difficult issue for both of you, but having mutual support for each other as you figure out the solution is important. My guess is that after a few sessions together your boyfriend may be more willing to go it alone.

Wishing you patience and peace,
Dr. Dan
Proof Positive Blog @ PsychCentral

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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 27 Mar 2014

APA Reference
Tomasulo, D. (2014). Sex Question. Psych Central. Retrieved on September 1, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/03/27/sex-question/