Is There Something Wrong with Me?

By Kristina Randle, Ph.D., LCSW

For the past two years I’ve been feeling isolated, unmotivated and as if I will never amount to anything. I have developed the bad habit of thinking of creative ways to commit suicide or how to make other people feel guilty as a result of me being miserable. I find myself avoiding all kinds of social interactions, then later wishing I had more friends. Often times school causes me enough stress to have regular mental breakdown. I have always thought that this is just normal teenager emotions but my “symptoms” have been going in a direction I don’t entirely understand. I find myself going through binge-purge cycles which I feel as if I have limited control over. I also have been second guessing everything people say, even my closest friends. I also find it harder to fall asleep at night, which was never a problem until a few months ago. Also much more recently, i find myself fidgeting and unable to sit still. I’m not sure why I always feel so alone when I have a caring family and several close friend. I guess all I want to know if this is normal, because it doesn’t feel normal. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

A. You are becoming increasingly isolative. Even when you are in the presence of others, and have others available to you, such as your family and close friends, you remain isolative. A support system is available to you but you are choosing not to utilize their support. Your preference is to be alone.

Your lack of motivation, hopelessness and suicidal ideation are signs of depression. You sometimes fantasize about how you can make other people feel guilty because you believe that they have created misery in your life. You may feel that way because you think that they should be doing more to help you. It would be difficult for them to help you if you are actively avoiding them. Also, if you haven’t told them what’s bothering you, then you can’t expect them to know.

It’s also concerning that you are bingeing and purging. The sense of control that is gained from bingeing and purging is an illusion. In fact, quite the opposite is true: acts of self-destruction are a sign of someone being out of control. Bingeing and purging destroys the esophagus, the stomach lining and can damage organs in the body. Eating disorders are highly dangerous.

You are entertaining thoughts of suicide and engaging in acts of self-destruction. It’s apparent that you are suffering and lack the necessary coping skills to handle your intense emotional pain and suffering. My recommendation is to consult a mental health professional who specializes in depression and eating disorders. I worked with many people who were dealing with similar problems and were helped by therapy. A therapist can teach you healthy responses to difficult problems. Without the proper coping skills, many people resort to maladaptive and unhealthy strategies for handling their problems. The sooner that you seek counseling, the better you will feel. Please take care.

Dr. Kristina Randle

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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 28 Feb 2014

APA Reference
Randle, K. (2014). Is There Something Wrong with Me?. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 23, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2014/02/28/is-there-something-wrong-with-me-2/