I suffer from depression and I am Schizophrenic. But, I wanted to know if I have any other mental issues. I feel a constant need for attention from some people and from others I want nothing to do with. If they died I would not care. I also tell people I care about them and love them because I know I should say that, but I do not feel the actual emotion of love (for SOME people). I also used to get very angry very fast but I’ve worked on that in therapy. Finally, I lie to people while looking into their eyes and I do not feel bad. I can come up with an excellent lie in a few seconds and I act it out completely. At times I find myself saying little useless lies for no reason at all, but I never believe them; I KNOW they are lies. These things really bother me, please help me understand my problem.
A. There are certain people you love and certain people you don’t love. Generally speaking, that’s normal. No one loves everyone, even people you’re “supposed” to love, like your parents and relatives. Not everyone is blessed with great relatives. Nor does everyone deserve your love. For instance, imagine if your parents neglected and severely abused you. Not loving them would be understandable.
You also lie to people. It’s important to determine the motivation for the lies. Some people lie to gain attention or to make themselves look better. People who lie for those reasons are often doing so to protect a delicate ego. They lie to boost their self-image.
Other people lie for the purpose of manipulation. These types of lies have the potential to cause great harm to others. People who lie for the purpose of manipulation might have a personality disorder such as narcissistic or antisocial personality disorder.
While you did not provide a specific example of the type of lies that you tell, my sense is you are driven by ego protection rather than purposeful and deceitful manipulation.
If you would like to write back and provide more details, I may be able to give you a more specific answer. Please take care.
Dr. Kristina Randle
Mental Health & Criminal Justice Blog
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 19 Jul 2013
Randle, K. (2013). Do I Have Other Disorders Too?. Psych Central. Retrieved on November 28, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2013/07/19/do-i-have-other-disorders-too/