Dating A Married Man
I have been dating a married man from before Christmas. He says that the first time he seen me he felt a connection he couldn’t explain. That was 8 months before anything happened between us. The problem is he is married. I know this is wrong you dont have to tell me. I have tried to end it and tell him to go and try at home with his wife. for two days it killed me and I asked him back and he couldn’t off been happier. He has told me he loves me and tonight I asked him would he leave his wife his reply if it came down to it yes. I am so confused. I want this man in my life forever. He is 45 on his second marriage and has 4 children.
A. It is never a good idea to date someone who is married. They are legally bound to another person. Many married individuals in this predicament say they’re going to leave their spouse but they often don’t. Often they have no intention of leaving and are simply lying.
If you’re going to remain in this relationship, it’s important to have the right expectations. Expect that he will not leave his wife. In all likelihood, this relationship will be short-lived and not serious. His statement of leaving his wife could be taken seriously if he were finalizing a divorce, but this is not the case.
You stated that you want this “man in your life forever.” Know that if you move forward in this relationship (assuming he leaves his wife and family) that you will also have his family in your life forever. He will be forever connected to his current wife because of their children. Are you okay with sharing the rest of your life with his current family?
Dating someone who is married is hazardous and painful, not always but usually. You obviously have strong feelings about this relationship but try not to let this infatuation blind you to the reality of the situation. Please take care.
Randle, K. (2013). Dating A Married Man. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 6, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2013/02/12/dating-a-married-man/