[Video] I Feel Like a Failure As A Mom And Fiancee
I am a stay at home mom and lately I have been feeling like a failure. I feel like I can’t do anything right and that everything I do goes unnoticed. I have a wonderful fiance, who works hard to take care of our family and who loves me very much, but the problem lies with me. I can’t express my feelings to him. I have so much guilt inside of me. I feel guilty when I need money and my fiance gives it to me, I feel guilty if he comes home and the house isn’t spotless, even when the baby was a handful, I feel guilty if I take time for myself or if we go out without the baby. I feel guilty when the little one cries or throws tantrums when my fiance is at home, because I am supposed to be a good mother and a good housekeeper and a good fiancee, but I don’t feel like I am. I am a failure at everything and I am just so sick of crying everyday. How do I get past this? Please, please help me.
A: Thanks for your email. You sure put a lot of pressure on yourself! Who says you have to be a perfect fiancĂ©e, house keeper, or good at finances? It sounds like you want to be more than just good at those things, it sounds like you want to be perfect. I wonder if there’s something deeper going on, or how you learned to be so hard on yourself. Watch the video for the rest of this answer.
Take good care of yourself!
Hanks, J. (2012). [Video] I Feel Like a Failure As A Mom And Fiancee. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 24, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2012/10/18/video-i-feel-like-a-failure-as-a-mom-and-fiancee/