Q: My life was fine until I was in seventh grade, my parents were alright and I had amazing friends, until one night my parents told me and my siblings that my mom was thinking about divorce and how they were constantly fighting that single night brought everything down since then my parents were fighting all the time, my father would get drunk and start talking without knowing he was hurting my feelings, one night he almost hit my sister and my mom that marked my whole life, I almost didn’t make it through eight grade because I would just think about my parents and how their marriage is gonna end. Is not very pleasant to see your mom and dad sad :( Now in my freshman year everything got worse I started to get sad, cry without a reason, I get stress more easy and stuff like that.

Also I’ve been distancing from my friends and I know many people but I’m just used to them being my friends, two of them have boyfriends and they just stick to them like glue and its kind of annoying because we made a promise that no boy will interfere with our friendship but I guess isn’t validate anymore, for them I don’t exist anymore because they also have new friends and they leave in a corner alone. I guess that is also part of my sadness I guess and I also lost interest in things I used to like for example writing, photography, fashion and reading plus I’ve been thing about self-harming but I know that isn’t gonna help. So please answer me. take care :)

A: Thanks for writing in about this very difficult situation. How scary to not know what’s going to happen with your parents’ marriage, and feeling scared about your becoming mean when your dad drinks. Please reach out to your parents and ask if you can see a therapist. If they aren’t supportive of therapy then I suggest that you talk with a school counselor. Watch this video to hear additional suggestions.

Take good care!

Julie Hanks, LCSW

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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 12 May 2012

APA Reference
Hanks, J. (2012). [Video] Talk Of Parents’ Divorce Causing Depression. Psych Central. Retrieved on July 26, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2012/05/12/talk-of-parents-divorce-causing-depression/