I was abused as a child, have no sex drive and the one true love has left me (he doesn’t know about my childhood) I want to know if there is any hope for us at all-we never had sex often (twice in a year) he won’t discuss sex as he gets embarrassed and never ever made the 1st move, told me he loves me but not the way a boyfriend should? We both work long hours and shift work, and I have a dog that gets jealous even if we kiss!! but I feel such a failure, and I know we were soul mates, can i get him back? He wont answer my calls, and I was constantly accusing him of having an affair.  I’m absolutely devastated as I feel like I’ve lost the one true love of my life.

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soulfulgrrl at 2:10 pm on June 6th, 2011

This is me… in a nutshell. No sex drive and I lost a 6
year relationship because I get sick at the thought of being
called beautiful and having sex. The sex isn’t bad it’s
the initiating it. I lost the love of my life…

 

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Hanks, J. (2011). I Have No Sex Drive & Can’t Keep a Relationship. Psych Central. Retrieved on May 21, 2013, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2011/06/04/i-have-no-sex-drive-cant-keep-a-relationship/

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