Confusion, Contradicting Thoughts?

By Diana L. Walcutt, Ph.D.

I’ve been having a pretty hard time in life for the past year or two. I don’t know how to start this at all but basically I constantly contradict myself or cannot make up my mind. Like for a few days I’ll be happy and wanting to be with people. I’ll be caring and do nice little things like pay for a friend. I’ll be very hyper, productive and sexually aroused over the littlest things. Then within a few days I’ll get really quiet and isolate myself. To point where I cut, and seriously plan and consider my suicide. Theres alot of times where I just cry for no reason or I’ll feel like I’m pointless and worth nothing.

In school I barely pass English class because I cannot seem to keep thoughts in order. My mind races 24/7, it never rests. I barely sleep. I usually never want to sleep just stay up all night looking at a wall or surf the web for hours looking at absoultly nothing. I don’t know how to even organize this paragraph. I literally think about 10 different things at the same time. And I can never keep them organized. Sometimes I just feel like writing a suicide note and killing myself…but the next day i’ll be completly fine, as if nothing happened. I usually think about suicide everyday, i think of objects as killing machines.

Like a building…you can use it to jump off of to your death. I have no compassion at all. I find myself laughing at things that aren’t funny or just for fun. I am always confused and can never make up my mind and it makes me so fustrated! I’m always thinking about what’s going to happen next. I can never RELAX. I just want my mind to shut off. It never stops. Please help someway! I dont want to think of my death all the time. I just want to have one personality, not 2324 different ones. And I just want ot make up my mind once in awhile…

A: Hello and thank you for your question:

A couple of questions come to mind first. Have you spoken with your doctor about these concerns? Your pediatrician could help you figure out if there is something physical going on that he or she could help you with.

For instance, you may need some blood work to see how your thyroid is functioning. Or, you may be describing hormonal swings, that is, perimenstrual syndrome, which can be pretty dramatic and very upsetting. We call it perimenstrual because it can happen at any time during your monthly cycle, not just the week before or after.

Another question I would have to ask is, are you doing a lot of caffeine? Do you drink a lot of soda or coffee, for instance, that can disrupt your sleep and mood? Are you taking any illegal substances?  Mood lifters can also lead to terrible crashes.

The computer screen can mess up your sleep pattern as well. The bright light sends a message to your brain that tells you that it is still daylight (it may be 2 in the morning) and therefore it can’t shut down like it’s supposed to at night. We have a built in “sleep/awake” cycle that is set on a 24-hour clock and computers can interfere with that. So can the games we might be playing on computers, especially if they stimulate adrenaline, the big energy hormone.

If you have had a physical and your doctor has ruled out issues that could be causing your mood swings, you may then want to talk with a therapist or even a psychiatrist to determine if there is something else going on that he can help you with.

Mood swings with terrible lows and frantic highs are pretty common in teenagers, but I am concerned about your racing mind and your suicidal thoughts.  Please get a checkup, be honest with your doctor and if he can’t help you, please ask your parent to take you to a professional. You may even ask your pediatrician to recommend one.

Please don’t take this suggestion as thinking that you’re “crazy” or anything like that. Quite the opposite. I think you are making a very healthy decision by asking for help here.  I do want to encourage you to get the care that you deserve so that you don’t need to suffer like this any longer.

I hope this helps,

Dr. Diana Walcutt

 

 

Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 2 Aug 2009

APA Reference
Walcutt, D. (2009). Confusion, Contradicting Thoughts?. Psych Central. Retrieved on October 25, 2014, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2009/08/02/confusion-contradicting-thoughts/