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Archive for February, 2008

Husband Not Getting Better. What Next?

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Q. My husband was diagnosed bipolar II recently, but I think the Dr. may be wrong. Prior to our relationship, my husband has had a long history of various mental health diagnosis. He has been diagnosed with depression, OCD and PTSD. We dated for awhile, and lived together for over a year before we finally got married. My husband was a happy man during our first two years together. We were then blessed with a baby that we were told we would never be able to have. We both have teenagers from previous relationships. Since the baby was born 18 months ago, he has been moody, depressed, and very "tired," all the time. If allowed, he will sleep 23 hours per day. I insisted that ...  
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Trying to Eat But Can’t. Eating Disorder?

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Q. I have been trying to eat but every time i try it seems to come back up 15 minutes later .The past two weeks i haven't been able to eat much. This is because 15 minutes later i feel sick to my stomach and it all comes up. I went to a doctor and i was checked for the flu and other viral sicknesses . I didn't show signs of any. I have lost 10 pounds during the two weeks its been going on and i have had many people tell me i look very thin and pale recently. I tried to talk to my dad about it but he just ignored me . Im not sure what to do or if i can ...  
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Self Harm Too Far?

Friday, February 29th, 2008

WARNING: This entry contains graphic descriptions of extreme self-harm. Please do not continue reading it if you are not safe.

Q. Hi I have been self harming for 6 years...i had stopped for 6 months recently...but when my doc put me on prozac for depression and OCD ...I started cutting alot worse...i kept having to go deeper and deeper...i was eventually going thru all my skin...and then i got creative...i started picking pieces of fat out of my arm with nail clippers....i also hit an arteriole once and it squirted ya that was sort of scary... u think that would have stopped me but nope!!!...anyways...i can't stop now...and i am having urges to cut off the tip of my finger...and also i hate my body so...i

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Nervous About Meds. Please Help.

Friday, February 29th, 2008

Q. Hi, about 3 years ago I became ill. It took the doctors months and they never really found anything wrong with me other than that I have mitral valve prolapse. I became depressed/anxious during this time because I was worried about myself. I seeked counseling and began taking Lexapro. After awhile I started to get back to the normal routine and was doing great. In Sept 07, I quit taking my meds. I slowly weened of the Lexapro and was doing fairly well; however, I could feel a little bit of anxiety brewing back up inside of me. I went to DC on a work trip in early Jan. 08 and started to have a worse anxiety so I began taking the Lexapro again ...  
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Aspergers issues.

Wednesday, February 27th, 2008

I'm 24 years old. In 1994, when Asperger Syndrome was first defined, I fit the description perfectly. Since then, I've learned a lot of things: How to make small talk (I memorized the appropriate phrases); how to take regular showers (I incorporated the shower into my nightly routine); how to deal with sensory overload (cotton clothing is wonderful; so are sunglasses); how not to have temper tantrums (I finally mastered that at about age 17, but I still cry very easily, especially when something unexpected happens). I've been trying to get through college since I was 16. According to my IQ, this should be very easy; but as is typical for autistic people, there's more to it than raw intelligence, and that "more to it" (in ...  
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Confidential to Illinois writer:

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

Your feelings aren't "overboard" but your actions are. Your note to your husband is so angry that he probably can't think of anything to say to you. You certainly had a right to express your feelings. Now go back and invite a conversation. The trust in your marriage has suffered damage from both of you. He's secretly talking to old girlfriends. You are snooping in his email. If you want to save your marriage, it is time you two had a heart to heart about what is really going on between you. If you can't manage it by yourselves, please find a marriage counselor who can help you listen to each other and maybe find a way to reestablish the trust that ...  
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Who can help us with parenting issues?

Tuesday, February 26th, 2008

What type of therapist would we want to see for parenting advice/issues? I feel that my husband and I have different parenting styles and want to find our balance. We have a 5 year old & a 4 month old. A: I am so glad that you and your husband can agree get some help with parenting while the children are still so young. That tells me that it is more important to each of you to take good care of your kids than it is to win an argument with each other. You can give yourselves a gold star from me. Generally I advise that people who are primarily concerned with parenting issues look for a licensed marriage and family ...  
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Is this anxiety or what?

Monday, February 25th, 2008

From a S. American teen: well im about 16 just moved to a whole new country with my family i been dealing with anxiety pain and drama also living with my moms problem and covering her problems..now i don't know what is happening im having nightmares everytime i sleep and i'm never hungry i have major headache and now my left arms keep getting numb and i can't feel it at times. i feel like im not even here cause there is a point when my body just goes numb. i also get feeling that my heart beat gets fast then slow now im just really upset but i seem not to really show it i also been having really bad mood where i ...  
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My Girlfriend is mad at me

Monday, February 25th, 2008

Well i went out last night and i was drinking and i had to much too drink then i ended up making a complete arse of myself and then some how i ended up upsetting her.What should i do?

A: Apologize. The bigger the "arse" you made of yourself, the bigger the apology required. Then take a careful look at what happened. Has your drinking gotten out of control? Do you and your girlfriend have a different idea about how to have a good time? Is it possible that she felt you weren't considerate or respectful of her? You and your girlfriend need to talk it through. Apologies don't mean much unless followed up by new understanding and a change in behavior.

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Just Found Out My Boyfriend Has a Fetish. Can You Help Me Understand?

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

Q. I just discovered unfortunately that my boyfriend has strange sex fetishes. He accidentally left his email open on my computer and I found an email from him to an escort describing the type of fantasy he wanted with her. He said that he wanted her to take him hostage and use him for her pleasure. He wanted to serve her. He said that he enjoyed strap-on play, golden shower, boot, foot and rear-end worship. I am so shocked by all of this and am trying to look for answers as to why and how someone develops fetishes like this. With me he is most gentle and loving and this is a completely different person than the one I know. Please help me to understand ...  
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What’s wrong with me?

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

what going inside??! whats wrong with me??is it a disorder...plz help i cant access any psychologist nor therapists..

childhood: mum was so strict, im hit until now (severly).. until now we have a (naughty spot- room) actually its the bathroom where i spend the night if did sth bad... mum always mistrusts me... when i was 6 yrs old i stole things from ma friends but stopped whn i was severly punished(hit) 4 this attitude...I HATE MY MUM..dad is alwayz away travelling...

im now 19 . i am used to SEVERLY self harm, for the last 3 yrs ,(cut,burnt,pierced maself..overdosed.. i traverse streets without looking...im on a YOYO diet either i eat toooooo much or i starve myself..i never had a set weight....im am a danger seeker..for

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How do I protect my grandson?

Sunday, February 24th, 2008

What or whom should be helpful in making sure his visits with mom are not harming him mentally? I don't know who to contact for example on christmas eve the child told me he and his dad that he had been choked again by his cousin and he thought he was gonna die that time. His mom knows this older cousin has done this in the past but refuses to supervise them, even says it did not happen and now has sent the child on a day visit with one of her drug user friends and the same cousin that chokes him in a over crowded veh. They couldn't put on seat belts.

& She tells him to say things like Satan I rebuke you

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