Q: Hi I’m 14 and I live with my single mother and also my grandparents live 3 houses down so I basically live with both. I recently found out all three of them are doing an illegal drug marijuana(pot). I believe in the smoking way but they know I found out and if I report them and they go to jail I'll be in a foster home and they're addicted to it and there are bad side effects like my grandmother recently had a heart attack and they're not going to stop. All three of them are also very angry and very high aggression and it's driving me crazy please help –thanks.

A: You are in a tough situation and I think you first need to

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I always feel horribly fat and ugly! I do loads of exercise every day and try to eat around 500 calories a day, 900 at the most and then I feel terrible! I've tried making myself sick before but it hasn't worked so when I eat something I just do exercise afterwards to burn off the calories. I count calories on everything and try to eat as little carbs, sugars and fats as possible. My stomach constantly aches and rumbles weirdly and I get tired so easily! It's really annoying but I don't know how else to get less fat. I wish I could be slimmer. Lots slimmer! My aunt, who's a nurse once heard me complaining about how fat I am and started telling ...  
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My husband's ex keeps calling. They have a three year old son but she phones sometimes 3 times a day and if not she is texting him. This does not happen much when we have the boy but when she is looking after him she is phoning all the time for silly things. I get the impression that she is trying to make sure that when she has the boy she does not want my husband to forget that she is there. How could I stop this? I don't like to have a go at my husband but who do I ? It upsets me lots. I don't want to rock the boat and not get to have the boy at the house with ...  
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I am in a relationship will someone who is 17 yrs younger than I am. We have been dating for 18 months. I love him a lot and we talk about spending our lives together. I just truly got comfortable in the relationship. He was a live in boyfriend up until a month ago then he decided to get some of the things in his life on the right track; college, a good job, he says to help support us. Yesterday, he broke it off, saying I deserve someone better and someone with more money.He said his family is upset by the age difference and looks down on him for it.

Was I crazy for expecting this relationship to work? I am hurting deeply but

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I work for myself and have difficulty with self motivation. I’ve asked my wife to become more dominant in our relationship. I want her to assign me chores, review my weekly business goals, and if I’ve failed in either area to discipline me by assigning extra chores, lectures, grounding, and spanking. We’ve been happily married for 27 years.

I didn’t discover my feelings for femdom until after I married or I would not have dated anyone that was not femdom. I’ve tried to suppress these feelings. In the past I’ve thrown out all my femdom books, only to have the feelings return even stronger than before. This isn’t something that is going away.

I have my own business and work out of the house. I’m

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I would like to thank you for writing the "Husband is having affair with codeine" article yesterday and my wife for forwarding it to me. You see, I mimic the husband in that article with a few minor data differences and that rather than having been married for 2 1/2 years, we have been together for 27. I have tried and failed 12 step programs. I have great difficulties being honest with everyone, most importantly myself, with my disease. I want to take responsibility to manage my disease but don't know how, when every fiber of my being screams to continue what I have been doing. Any suggestions?

A: How many times would you jiggle a locked door before you gave up and went out

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Q. I was diagnosed bipolar I ultra rapid cycler with mixed states 11 years ago. My life has been hell ever since. I have been completely faithful to my psych meds regardless the hell they may be putting me through this whole time. For the past 5 years I was on lithium 200 mg (?)and Depakote 1500 mg which had me sleeping 12 hours a day with barely 8 hours of any sort of real wakefulness. I felt like a zombie most of the time due to just being so tired. I talked with my psychiatrist a few months back and we started the nightmare roller coaster I have now been on since.

Over the years I have been put on more anti-depressants and other

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Q. My therapist isn't sure: I am 47 years old. I suffered terrible episodes of depression — on and off — from the age of 30 through age 43. At the age of 43 (while NOT in a depressive episode) I recalled a trauma that I suffered when I was 8 yrs. old. The trauma I suffered at age 8 was that I was raped by our parish priest. This memory had been completely repressed from the time it happened until I was 43 years old. I don't know why I remembered this at this particular time in my life, but I did.

After discussing this with my husband and the pastor of my current church, I reported the incident to the archdiocese

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Q. My husband's issues have really begun taking its toll on our family. We've been married for thirteen years and from the beginning, I knew of his temper but figured since I had suffered from depression (due to childhood sex abuse) in the past, perhaps we both could assist each other in dealing with our mental health.

I've since learned that his anger was actually a symptom of something 'bigger'. My husband has severe mood swings combined with what appears to be psychotic episodes. When totally stressed from an argument or even some kind of routine life event like paying bills, he loses it. For instance: He has parked his car behind mine in the garage to keep me from leaving; kicked a chair

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Q. I dated a girl for over 6 years and we recently split up. We were making progress toward getting back together and a mixup of names caused a fight between me and a random guy. My girlfriend found out and got mad. For the past four days she hasn't spoken to me. She is the only person I have ever opened up and talked to about my feelings. Now that I can't talk to her I am in extreme internal pain, almost to the point I can't function. When I think about her and how we used to be I end up cutting my arm or hitting my ribs with a broom handle. I know this isn't normal or healthy but it helps ...  
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Q. I have read and heard people, saying that life is precious? WHY? I really do not see the point of living. I am a 31 year with a postgraduate diploma, and yet I work in the service industry. None of my colleagues not even the General Manager is as qualified as I am. They are all high school dropouts.

I have tried to improve and change my circumstances. Just to mention a few. Career coaching, networking events, self help books, volunteering, physical and mental exercise and yet 10 years after getting my first qualification, I have never had a professional job. I am 31 with no hope whatsoever.

I am deeply in debt (the debt has all been through paying fees – I

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Q. For several years now, I have noticed a difference in the way that people respond to me. I am at times inclined to believe that I am a bit harsh or unfriendly. I don't feel this way inside or that I am trying to convey any negativity. I do know that I do not feel as happy as I once did. Also, I have noticed for about the same amount of time that when I go out and drink socially that I am having more incidents of becoming angry or upset than ever before. I am affected more physically by alcohol (motor skills, etc). This has never been a problem for me in the past, however it is a big problem now. I ...  
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