I have a 14 month old son that I am weaning at this time. Until now he has always settled himself to sleep while nursing. The last 3 days I have tried to begin having him settle himself at nap and bedtime. Unfortunately he is also an escape artist and in desperation has learned to climb the rail of his crib and then falls to the floor. By this time he is so beside himself that the only way to settle him is to rock and then of course, he falls asleep. Is there a good way to help him “self settle”?

A: You certainly have a determined and strong child. He knows what he wants and goes for it. But he is in danger of hurting himself. Meanwhile, you are trying to take the next step in his independence but you are being frustrated in your efforts. My guess is that he isn’t the only one who is beside himself.

The best source of information I know for issues around nursing (and weaning) is the La Leche League. Go to http://www.lalecheleague.org and search “weaning.” You will find lots of information. See if there is a LLL chapter near you. If so, you may find that they have support groups and/or other women who can coach you through this important time in your baby’s life.

I wish you well.
Dr. Marie

You may also like:

What You Do Every Day Matters More Than What You Do Once In a WhileWorld of PsychologySchizophrenia, BPD and Pregnancy4 Month old hates his daddyGrief and parentingThe Psychology of Occupy Wall StreetWorld of Psychology

How I Create: Q&A with Photographer, Writer Susannah ConwayWorld of PsychologyHow I Create: Creativity Coach and Author Gail McMeekinWorld of PsychologyLong-Term Thinkers Make Better Health DecisionsPsych Central NewsGrieving BF can't love new baby

• Read more questions answered by this therapist

• No Related Post

Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 3 Jul 2007