He expects more than he gives

By Dr. Marie Hartwell-Walker

I am 23 yrs grl in India and i dearly love my boyfriend. he is very simple , very caring , very affectinate and the best thing is that we have told our parents about our relationship. We want to marry soon but sometimes my boyfriend makes a lot of mess. he is a type of person who keeps mum when his mood is off , he always expects me to understand him but never tries to understand me. both of us are truly in love with each other but sometimes i get too much frustrated with this attitude of my boy friend. plz help me out

A: Please slow down in your decision to marry. You may love each other but your relationship isn’t balanced enough yet for you to commit to a life together. A healthy relationship is not this one-sided. Spend more time together. See if this man is willing to learn how to be less self-centered and more willing to try to understand your feelings. I don’t know what kind of messes he makes. I do know that being a healthy adult means taking responsibility for one’s mistakes and not shutting out the people who love you.
I wish you well.
Dr. Marie




Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 25 Feb 2007

APA Reference
Hartwell-Walker, D. (2007). He expects more than he gives. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 27, 2015, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2007/02/25/he-expects-more-than-he-gives/

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