Q: I am a really kind person and people (my friends) tell me stuff about themselves and their families that most people would keep to themselves. I do help them to look on the bright side of their problems, but every time they tell me stuff it just reminds my of my own problems, that I’d like to forget, I know its my fault because I’m always smiling and laughing when I’m around them but I really just want to cry, because I’m the kind of person my friends look up to if I show them that I’m sad they automatically start frowning and stuff, and I don't need that extra sadness around me. What can I do about that? A: What you have ...  
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Q: Just about a few months ago I started having homicidal thoughts and I have been obsessing over them for quite a while now. I have had thoughts that get really graphic and it really bothers me. My homicidal thoughts are usually about hurting my family or friends the people I love and care for and I always have. It really hurts waking up every morning and to start having these thoughts and I have them at school. When I'm at school all my friends just think you know I’m such a good kid and when I hear that I just feel terrible words cannot describe. I'm a pretty popular kid, I'm involved with sports and extracurricular activities. I just look like a normal guy ...  
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Q: Hi, I think I’m depressed but I’m not sure and just need somebody to tell me, I’m too embarrassed to go to my doctor. Please I would really appreciate you're opinion. well here it goes: I have no self esteem at all I feel fat and ugly and wish I looked like and had the personality of some one else, the thought of sex terrifies me because I’d have to let a boy see me naked. I feel that no boy will ever want me and that they'd much rather have prettier girlfriends. Also I’m very self-conscious of everything I do even if it’s just getting a new haircut I get terrified about what people are going to say about it/me and I ...  
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My son cries almost everytime his father picks him up for no apparent reason beside the fact that it is his father. At times he will even cry or appear anxious at the sound of my husbands voice. We began to notice this when he was only about a month old and originally thought it would only be temporary. When he was a newborn he could be comforted by his father and often slept with him, now my husband can't do anything to him without him sreaming or crying. Our baby is five months old and his behaviour towards his father has not changed. He is normally a very happy baby even smiling and responding well to complete strangers. I wonder ...  
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I am 23 yrs grl in India and i dearly love my boyfriend. he is very simple , very caring , very affectinate and the best thing is that we have told our parents about our relationship. We want to marry soon but sometimes my boyfriend makes a lot of mess. he is a type of person who keeps mum when his mood is off , he always expects me to understand him but never tries to understand me. both of us are truly in love with each other but sometimes i get too much frustrated with this attitude of my boy friend. plz help me out A: Please slow down in your decision to marry. You may love each other but your relationship isn't ...  
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I have been married for 7 years, and with my husbnd for 11 years. The past 6 years have been complete hell. The night my son was born, he went out and did not come home until the next day. I have an idea that he was with another woman. He had a group of friends, one whom is a professional footballer. He started going to exclusive place with him and I had a phone call from his wife telling me he had cheated on me. As time has passed, he has been going abroad on stag weeks etc and any other function he can get on. He loves our children and helps out a lot. He does not stop moaning at me when i ...  
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My adult son (27 years-of-age) is married and in the past I have witnessed him "playfully" biting his wife. He frequently bites her hard enough that she crys out in pain and demands that he stop. He then plays it off as being "playful". Now there is a four month old child in their lives and I have now seen similar behavior on his part towards his infant daughter. He doesn't bite her hard, but firmly enough that there are some residual marks for a short time. He seems to make it a habit of placing his open mouth on her face, ears, eyes and nose. He has always exbibited the same behavior towards his wife, placing his face ...  
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My parents don't believe I have OCD, what do i do?

My boyfriend and i have been going out for 3 months but in the last 2 days he has been ignoring me. i asked him why he wasnt talking to me and he said because he has been thinking about something. i asked what and he said that it doesnt matter now. but he still hasnt talked to me. i dont know what to do. and the weekend before we had a lot of fun together and he seemed fine. he talks to all of his friends except for me. A: I can't tell from your letter who owns this problem. It could be that your boyfriend just needs some private time with his other friends and you are being insecure and crowding him. It ...  
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I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia several years ago. About 2 years later sex started to become painful. Discussed it with my doctors and was sent for an ultrasound which showed nothing, pelvic exam negative. Now sex is so painful that it is non existant. My husband keeps hounding me. The few times I have given in I have been in tears from the pain in the vaginal vault. It feels like I am being jabbed with a knife. I might add that my husband and I are not on the best of terms. He is abusive,(mentally,verbally,financially). He kicked me about 3 years ago and I moved into a separate bedroom. Also my skin is so sensitive I can,t stand to be touched by him or ...  
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My boyfriend frequently asks if I poison his food. There are other things. Without telling me, he will disappear for 4 or 5 days. He is a tile installer, and says he had an out of town bid. He does not handle money well. He said he wanted me to handle the money for his business but he has never given me any. Sometimes at night, he whispers "you're not going to do anything to me, are you?" He seems to be very self-centered, and he has drinking bouts where he drinks vodka and has no recollection of what he has done. He was physically beaten by his mother as a boy and frequently talks about that. ...  
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About a year ago, I caught my boyfriend on a variety of dating sites. We have been dating on and off for about 5 years. The conversations between him and these other women were very disturbing to me. They asked each other to visit, etc... When I confronted him about this, he tried to lie out of it; but I had printed out these conversations. So now he tells me he was doing it just for fun (as a joke to these desperate women. He knows how I feel about this, yet he still visits these dating sites. I want him to stop this behavior so I can work on trusting him again. Do you think I'll ever be able to trust again??? A: You ...  
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