Q: Our 21 year old daughter has been seeing a 22 year old guy for quite some time. They met on the Internet. We live in Oregon. He lived in Missouri at the time. They had been talking online for about 2 years when I agreed to let her go meet him. After meeting, she decided she wanted to go to college where he was so with reservations on our part, we let her go. They have since moved to Arizona where they are living together and attending college. Last summer, we told our daughter that marrying somebody that refuses to meet us was unacceptable to us. We want her to be happy but we feel ...  
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Hi, I'm a 16 year old girl and I've wanted to commit suicide since I was very young. At first when I was in elementary I was never really liked by any of the kids at school. So I developed an attitude to where everyone, including the very few friends I had, was afraid of me. That didn’t make me feel any better at all. What made it even worse was that my brother hated me. I’m not exaggerating and I’m not only thinking he hated me cause he’s a mean big brother. He told it to me everyday. He told me he hated me and told me I was a worthless little shit. I was 4 years old the first time he ...  
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Q: I am in the early stages of planning my wedding, to my boyfriend of 3 1/2 years. A few days ago I found out that he slept with a good friend of mine two years ago. He says it only happened once, and he was pretty drunk. Should I forgive him and continue to plan my wedding to him? By the way, we do have a one year old daughter together. I feel betrayed, and I have no resepct for either of them at this point, and I will never speak to that friend again. She is dead to me. What should I do? A: This affair happened two years ago, a year before the birth of your baby. That would argue for forgiveness. But ...  
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Q I am a married woman with 2 wonderful kids. I am very in love with my husband of 12 yrs. About 3and a half years ago I cheated with another man who was giving me a lot of attention. I was severely depressed (and having another ocd episode as I have all my life)! I didn't have sex with this man but we masterbated eachother (That isn't sex right?),I think. Anyway, I told my husband I had cheated on him cause I felt so very bad about it. I tried to tell him everything but I couldn't bring myself to cause I just realized, back then, I truly love my husband and I know I will ...  
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Q: I started dating my boyfriend about a month ago. We had been friends for a few months before we started dating. The first night I EVER met him, he told me that we are approaching the end of times and we need to ready a militia for the support and well-being of our friends and family. He suggested we get a warehouse and live/prepare for our impending doom. I thought he was very wierd for coming up to complete strangers (my brother knew his brother) and telling us (me and my boyfriend at the time) that the world was going to end and he wanted us to start buying guns and hole up in a warehouse with him. As the weeks went ...  
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Q: My 15 yr. old daughter has been becoming more and more miserable at school. She spent the last four months of last school year on "Hospital School" with a diagnosis of "Severe Anxiety Disorder/Social Phobia." She was miserable, as she so much just wants to be "NORMAL". She is very smart, (4.12 GPA-missing school ALL THE TIME!) cute, has no obvious problems. Today was the first day back to school after vacation and last night was terrible. She was hysterical, sobbing, etc. After talking with her for a few hours she said, "If I could just get over the vomiting thing, everything would be so much better. Mom, not a minute goes by when I don't think about it. It ...  
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Q. My wife is suffering from paranoia. It continues to get worse. I am very concerned for her and our small children. There is no talking to her about getting help, because she is convinced everything she feels , hears, and sees is the absolute unequivical truth. She, nor I have never seen a mental health professional. I have spoken to a few psychologists, and the said I should have her see a psychiatrist. I have talked to her about talking to a therapist, and she says she will never, never, never see a shrink. Our relationship has been hurt very badly by the financial stress we have had the past couple of years, now for the ...  
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Q. My best friend is having issues, she won't tell me what they are, I can't help her, and I don't feel close to her like I used to. Also, my dad has been having an affair, my parents are getting a divorce, and neither is ever home except for really late at night. I'm OK with that though because they are very mean. My dad tells me I am worthless and lazy and says stuff like "I have to put up with your mom, now I have to put up with you!" My mom is the worst though. She snaps at the simplist things, screaming at me in our front yard in front of neighbors because I am taking too long to wash ...  
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Q. I've been this way for all years at high school. I've had withdrawal, feelings of inadequacy, unable to socialize with girls, sometimes I breakdown, whenever I get nervous or anxious my abs tighten up really badly, I've had thoughts of suicide, I'm usually unhappy, I get intense pains in my chest often, and I feel like I'm losing everything. I'm pretty sure no one would think of me this way because I've always been quiet and in the shadow of my twin. I'm always trying and persevering but things only get worse. I try to reason with myself but when I do it just reinforces these thoughts. I really have no one to talk to because I don't have any close friends anymore ...  
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Q: I just took the quiz on PTSD and found that the person the quiz was describing, was me. I pretty much have ALL the symptoms, in fact, it made me cry to see how close my personality was compared to the symptoms. I also took the tests for Bipolar Disorder and found that I was moderate to severe. As well as the Manic disorder which was also moderate to severe. I was molested by my moms stepdad at age 7 for a few months while we lived with them. I have been moved around alot in my childhood by my mother. From living in our car to living in a homeless shelter. She's an alcoholic who can get violent ...  
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It is really, really, really not your fault. You didn't stop him because you were shocked, confused, and afraid. You are depressed because you are feeling helpless and hopeless in the situation. You are absolutely right to be looking for some help. Services in your state are organized by county. Please write again and let me know where you live (just the county is okay) and I will try to find you the help you need. Please do contact me. Dr. Marie

Q: I have searched online for help and I can not find any. I am really seeking help to stop lying and I wanted to know what I could do from home. I don't have money for therapy and I just don't see any online help available. It is about to cost me my marriage. I have to get help and my husband is to fed up to help me at this point. A: I don't know of any specific references to give you on this subject but you may try looking for support groups - both online and in person - or general forums on the topic. I would also do a search for self-help books that pertain to lying. However, I also suggest finding ...  
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