Q: my daughter lives with me with her two children 8 months and 5 years old. she decided to go get medical for the kids. the welfare office thought she was on drugs and took the kids away. they told her get a drug test. my heart is so broken that the kids are in foster care. we go to court next week. they said that she needed to take medication before the children come home. she has never hurt these kids at all.
A: This must have been quite a shock. I’m so sorry. You need a lawyer, not an advice column. The state doesn’t generally do this kind of thing without reason. But it’s also true that well-meaning people can make mistakes and innocent families get hurt. On the other hand, it is also possible that you don’t know your daughter as well as you think you do. It’s unusual for a mother to be told that she needs medication to be reunited with her children. Please do all you can to get the facts so you can make good decisions about what you should do to help your daughter and your grandchildren. Then get some legal help. Unless you are a lawyer, the language and process of the law is probably too confusing and too complicated for you to deal with on your own.
I wish you well.
Dr. Marie
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