Q. About 5 years ago, I had sex several times with a 17-year-old boy. I am attracted to teenage boys but that is the only time I acted on it. I worked with this boy at the time and developed a crush on him. Then I purposely seduced him until I got him to sleep with me. What is going on with me? Why is it that I am drawn to males that are way too young? I don’t have sexual attraction to men my own age.
A. Why? There are thousands of potential whys. Perhaps you feel inadequate for your age and look to younger boys who will find you very adequate for their age. Perhaps you were molested as a child, etc, etc, etc.
The real problem here is that you are MOLESTING teenage boys. What you are doing is illegal in many states. The law is quite clear about the age of consent. You need therapy to deal with these issues and to determine if you have a deeper problem. Even if you decide to stop, you should get therapy to understand why you have done what you have done and if you are really capable of “stopping.” I have sympathy for persons who act out because of their psychological problems but I am adamant that they cannot for any reason be allowed to hurt others. The victim cannot be allowed nor forgiven for having become the perpetrator. Good luck.
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