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Archive for September, 2006

Sex, OCD, and Conflict

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q: I've been with my girlfriend for about three years now. We had a normal sex life up until about a year ago, when she started refusing to give oral sex, but still wanted me to give it to her. The thing that confused me at first was that she seemed ok with giving it for so long and then, all of a sudden, she's refusing to do it. I talked to her about it and she said she never really liked doing it that much, but she did it because she wanted to please me. What I don't understand is, if she was willing to give oral to please me before, then why is she unwilling to do it now. I feel that I ...  
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Getting Over the Death of Mom

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q: My aunt has just passed away a month ago. She committed suicide and behind her she has left her husband 2 sons who are 13 and 6. The older boy had learnt to cope with the fact that is mother is no longer around but the younger one stays angry with everyone around him. He was really close to his mother and he doesn't want to accept the fact that his mother is gone forever. This is putting an effect on his health as he is not eating properly anymore. What is the best way to get him back into his old self again, like what should the family do? A: I'm actually just as concerned about the 13 year old as the 6 year ...  
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Why Am I So Angry with my Stepson?

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q: I recently had a blowout with my 24 yo stepson. He had come over with laundry for his mother to do and I had made some comment about why he doesn't do it himself. In truth I don't even know why it bothers me that he brings his laundry. But, he's recently graduated collage as a PHARM-D and I resent the fact that he's still leaning (mooching) off of his mother and I for things he should be doing on his own. My question is two-fold in that I don't realize why watching him rumage through my fridge or hand his mother laundry makes me so mad in the first place, and that I feel powerless to stop him from ...  
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Codependent and Hurting

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q: My ex and I broke up about a month ago so she could recover from heroin addiction. She cheated on me while on drugs with a girl in another city and is keeping her on as what she calls her "rebound girl" until she can get enough therapy to get back together with me. She acts like we did not even break up until she goes out of town once or twice a month to see this girl and then I turn invisible. This situation is putting me through the ringer and do not know what to do about it because I am the only person in her life helping her through recovery but do not want to feel like I am being toyed ...  
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OCD

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q: my gf of about a year i'm pretty sure has ocd, and it makes things between us kind of hard because i try to understand but sometimes cant. She will take her shoes off five or six times until it feels "Ok" for her. On a normal average day she takes about 2 hours to get ready for work when it normally would take 30 mins to get ready but she has to go over and over things againg and again. She wont go to any kind of therapist or get any kind of help for it, and i dont want it to get any worse on her. I just want to find some ways to better understand or help her. What should ...  
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Mental Illness & Schizophrenia

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. My uncle had a mental illness and since it happened when he was around 21 and many years ago, we do not have a report from the hospital he was admitted to in order to confirm whether he had Schizophrenia or some other mental disorder. My true question is: Can a very high fever trigger a mental illness such as Schizophrenia? My mother said that her brother (my uncle) was sick for a couple of days and he had a fever was so high that there was steam coming from the palms of his hands. He had hallucinated and had actually walked out of the house and into town in his bare feet in the snow and didn't think anything was strange. The ...  
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Raped by My Husband

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. I was hospitalized at 17 with a drug induced psycosis for two weeks after using majic mushrooms. My whole life fell apart as it was exam time. I decided to move to the U.S.A. with my boyfriend. We were married, had two beautiful children and for 5 years I coped well. Taking care of both my daughter and son virtually o my own, plus 9 moves over that period made the illness resurface. Not to mention, some pretty charasmatic church practices we were involved in. being a Catholic and then converting to my husbands born again Christian group was a dramatic change. I moved back to Canada to be with my family and found that 5 years of the intense stress and change, was ...  
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What Happens if Borderline Disorder Goes Untreated?

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. I was engaged about 7 months ago. My ex fiance started having really bad anxiety attacks. She was failing college and all of a sudden decided it was my fault. She started calling me a month ago. Asking to see me and she has changed, so I agreed. We were together for about a week. She had told me in the beginning she has been with no one since me. After that week she told me the truth. She was with 6 guys in that time. The sad thing is these guys use her for one night and dump her the next day. When she informed me of this she also told me some God aweful stuff to just plain tear me down. ...  
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My Anxiety: Unknown Mental Disorder

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. I have had an unbalanced childhood and had to grow up fast to raise my little brother - but that is a whole book on its own. I have always had anxiety - bad anxiety. I shake from when I wake up until I go to bed (If and when I can go to bed). My mind never stops and I am 99% sure I have ADD if not ADHD. I am always worried about completing this and that - I think of starting this and that - therefore never complete any of it. I am also 99% sure that I am a mixture of Mania and Manic - Trust me you can tell since I have been dealing with myself for so long. ...  
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I am attracted to teenage boys

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. About 5 years ago, I had sex several times with a 17-year-old boy. I am attracted to teenage boys but that is the only time I acted on it. I worked with this boy at the time and developed a crush on him. Then I purposely seduced him until I got him to sleep with me. What is going on with me? Why is it that I am drawn to males that are way too young? I don't have sexual attraction to men my own age. A. Why? There are thousands of potential whys. Perhaps you feel inadequate for your age and look to younger boys who will find you very adequate for their age. Perhaps you were molested as a child, etc, etc, ...  
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Am i depressed or what is wrong with me?

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. I have had depression before it was whe i was 14. but lately i feel like i did then as far as like just crying all of the time. i feel tired, sad, i feel sick to my stomach.... i also have a lot of headaches (which i have had migraines for many years... and am being treated for..) i love my life as far as my husband and my children.... but sometimes i feel as though it is too good to be true... i have been betrayed many times in my life and i have a hard time trusting. my mother thinks that i shoul see a doctor... i work 6 days a week and should be tired but should i be so ...  
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PTSD cause of all?

Monday, September 25th, 2006

Q. As a result of sexual, emotional, and physical abuse beyond the imagination, I have been diagnosed with PTSD since the age of 17. I have failed in school, failed in relationships (married 4x), failed at working a job, and failed my children (they were temporarily placed in foster care last year, I have them back). I am and have been on medication as long as I can remember. I was a participant in an inpatient specialty unit for PTSD for 2 months. I have had numerous visits to the local psych ward during the past 3 years. Thus, the Social Security disability comes into play. Is my PTSD the cause of my bipolar with MDD laced with psychotic features? Is my PTSD the cause ...  
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