My wife (42) and I (47) have been married for one year. I have known her for 5 years. It was an instance attraction when we met. The relationship has been extremely complex. She was sexually abuse and raped by more then one family member ? she is not in contact with her family today. She told me before we got married that she had come to terms with the abuse in counseling and our sex life before we got married was great and we thought that. Well now that we live together we don?t have sex any more and we fight all the time. Our marriage has reached a point of much resentment and frustration that has made things confusing for me. I think ...  
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Your advise is always logical, helpful and right on the mark. I'm now back on track with my boyfriend of two months and he is about as perfect as I've seen so far. Each time we're together, we talk, laugh and plan. The question is: how do I know when the time has come to take it to the next level sexually? I'd love to jump into bed with him but I really want to do things right this time. He has the qualities I require in a permanent relationship and don't want to mess it up. He says the right things and shows me he cares. The only thing that concerns me is when something is on his mind that doesn't involve me ...  
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My husband and I have 3 very bright children ages 6, 8, and 9. The oldest is a girl and the two younger ones are boys. My question is how do I get my husband to listen to me when I try to point out that I feel he is being too aggressive with his reactions and discipline methods? Our children are very close in age and very high strung - it's likely genetic as I am also high strung and have had issues with ADHD since childhood. He seems to be getting less and less tolerant and more easily over-stimulated. He yells frequently, but he is not physically or verbally abusive in my opinion. He is constantly at odds with my daughter and part ...  
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My husband is a dedicated runner. I believe running is good as long as it is not done to the extreme. I don't know where to begin. Five or six years ago he joined a running group. Nice people dedicated to running. He developed a friendship w/one man and they are good friends. My husband runs with him every morning and then they would go running for seven or more hours every Saturday and then have lunch. I would complain about it and I felt he was neglecting our children and myself. It was difficult. He would ignore my complaints and withdraw. We have a medical supply business with another couple and I use to work at the store but then quit about eighteen months ...  
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Hi. I am a 35 year old happily married mom of 2 small children. I am white,upper middle class,college degree. I have 2 unbelievably great little boys and I am lucky enough to stay home with them. I grew up in a family of 4, with my mom,dad and younger sister. My childhood in my opinion was terrible. I remember feeling sad all the time.We never did anything as a family.We were not allowed to have friends over the house,not allowed to play outside our yard, did not do any outside of school activities (I remember one time bringing mom to a Brownie Scout info meeting). I must have been maybe 8 years old? I remember her listening then raising her hand in the ...  
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My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years. Lately, we have been going out with his single friends and he has been talking to other girls using the excuse that he is trying to hook his male friend up with the girls. The other day we went out and he disappeared with his male friend and when I found him, he was dancing with another girl and chatting away (flirting). I became really angry and we got into a big fight. I told him that he had been disrespecting me and that I had enough. He said that I was overeacting and that it was just dancing. But to me it wasn't and it really bothers me so much. I am up to ...  
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I have always had problems with anxiety and depression. So has many other people in my immediate family. Several years ago, I had debillitating anxiety that manifested as irrational worry, (i.e. despite living my whole life drug free, i worried that i would become a drug addict and lose everything) strange, huh. I eventually pulled out of that episode, and lived for years, worry free. Well about a year ago, the worry came back, though this time I worried about being a pedophile. I have never touched a child nor had a sexual fantasy about a child, and I have never thought about a child during masturbation. But i have this constant fear of becoming this, and i have obsessive thoughts about it. I avoid ...  
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1) Sexual/Love Addiction: A year ago I met a guy. He was charming, ingratiating, fun, and we bonded in a way I had only dreamed. I would see him on weekends only. Our first sexual encounter I asked him his HIV status. Negative was his reply. So was I. Six months later, while moving his backpack I heard rattling, like vitamin bottles. They were HIV meds. I have since been tested and am still negative. I confronted him about the pills and he said he had been positive for more than a year and that he was afraid, after finding the guy he was looking for, that he was "damaged" and I would basically reject him. I forgave him and we continued on. A month ...  
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