Q. My mom recently got married to a guy that I really hate. I tell her that I hate this guy but she won’t divorce him. All they do is fight. I keep telling her to divorce him but she doesn’t listen to me. So lately I’ve not been feeling like myself. From 12 years of age til now which is 16 I’m depressed. It’s seeming endless. I don’t feel like excercising. My grades are dropping. I don’t feel like socializing with my friends or doing anything at all. I’ve been eating alot of junk food. I’ve been hititng my head on the floor. I’ve been dreaming of dead people. I’ve been hitting my head everywhere. In school I’ve been not concentrating on my work and just doodling and playing video games when I’m working in school. What do I do? My boyfriend was in the hospital and in acoma for a long time. During that time I got a new boyfriend. When my other boyfriend got out of the hospital I told him about the other one so now we’re just friends. How do I put an end to my depression? I’m not the girl I used to be.
A. The years from 12-16 can be very traumatic. Emotions can be very intense. You know the things that you are doing are wrong. You know that you should be eating better. You know that you should be exercising and you know that you should not be hitting your head on the floor. If you can stop these things on your own, then you do not need counseling, but if you can’t, then you need counseling. You can mention this situation at home to a school counselor, you can mention this to your parents and perhaps they will arrange counseling. The counselor is there to help you, to help you learn to do the things that you cannot do on your own. I would highly recommend this for you in your circumstance. Good luck.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 19 Jun 2005
Randle, K. (2005). I hate the guy my mother is married to…. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 14, 2012, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2005/06/19/i-hate-the-guy-my-mother-is-married-to/
