Q. I’m quite young and feel a little stupid for asking, I have just started a new school year and I have been seperated from my 3 best friends, Since the end part of last year I have been eating very little at school. My grades have also been dropping quite a lot and I fell as though everthing I do is wrong, I can’t do my work at school because I get very tired and I can’t concentrate at all, In my new class I am with a few friends but I’m also with this girl who hates me, she is close friends with another girl who is quite nice to me and I feel as though if I say anything that she will abandon me and leave me all alone with basically no friends in my class’s. I have also recently started cutting myself and that adds to my pressure of praying that nobody finds out. I feel as though if I tell somebody then they won’t believe me but if I don’t then my problem is just going to get worse. Also in relation to my grades I feel as though no matter how hard I study for a test that ultimatly I’m going to fail and my friends will laugh at me, please help as I’m not as stupid as my grades are saying but no matter what I do I can’t pass my tests, also I have found that I am skipping school in order to stay away from sitting tests. Please Help
A. Adjusting to new changes can be very difficult especially when you are doing it alone. At first, it can be really hard but for a lot of people it does get better and overtime, you will meet new friends. Cutting, eating very little and keeping this all inside is not a healthy way to deal what’s bothering you. If you wait and keep up your unhealthy behaviors, you risk creating bigger problems for yourself and your parents. I would encourage you to tell someone about what you are going through. Talk to your parents, a school counselor or a member of the church or whomever you feel comfortable talking to. If it’s hard to open up to your parents, write them a letter, an e-mail; just do something to let them know. There is help for you and you do not have to continue to suffer. It’s important to do something now and not let this problem get worse.
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