Q. I’m staying away from my home country for the service purpose, and my wife is not with me. We meet every 6 months and enjoy sex and love each other, moreover staying away without sex this became very difficult for me, i want to have either solution to relax the mind or else looking at beautiful women mind becomes crazy please suggest me some solution how to be patience. Sex is good for health if this is not continued then a person might get mentally disturbed.
A. Its difficult for you and your wife to be separated for six months and for your relationship to be put on hold for six months periods. Unfortunately, that’s the reality you must live with. Sex is a physical urge and though it is pleasurable, it must be controlled. You can show restraint. Certainly, you can’t have sex with every woman you desire. You might also be put into a position where you can’t have sex with anyone (i.e. prison). I know it’s difficult but it’s also possible to meet the physical release you need through masturbation. I don’t know that masturbation acceptable to you or your culture or your religion but it is to many people in this world. Studies show that most people do engage in masturbation. Again I know it’s difficult for you but you must control your sexual behavior. You are not alone. It is difficult for other people in this world. There are some people who give up sex entirely, there are couples who are celibate and there are religious persons who have also taken a vow of celibacy. I wish you the best of luck.
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