Q. I’ ve been going with my girlfriend for about 5 months now. Recently, she has began to steal from me. This is especially disturbing knowing that the closest person to me is the only person that has ever burned me. We live apart, but have been spending every weekend together for the past 5 months. We were planning on moving in the second she found a job in my city. But not anymore. I confronted her about the thefts and she took control of the discussion by raising her voice, being sarcastic and evasive, and using histrionics. It is apparent that she either has a personality disorder or is simply a cold and apathetic individual. She finally fessed up, when she saw that I was going to break it off. I’m not letting her into my apartment (where the thefts occurred) and I told her that I can not see a time when I would let her in the future. How do I break it off with someone like this? Someone who isn’t right in the head? Just the same as someone who is normal? Thank you.
A. Your girlfriend is responsible for her actions and certainly not every thief or liar has a personality disorder. It would have been interesting to know what she stole from you and whether or not you are overreacting. If you feel that what she had done is more than simply a mistake, is an unforgivable offense, something that is likely to be repeated, then you would be foolish to stay with her. As far as how to break up with her, simply say goodbye, change the locks, change your phone number and if she bothers you, call the police.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 4 May 2005
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