Q. Im feeling depressed. I feel embarassed and stupid for asking this. See I have a celebrity obsession and it is hurting me. I feel bad cause I can’t be with her cause she’s famous and lives somewhere else. I can’t focus in life, concentrate, not studying for school, stressed out, i feel anxious and down a lot. I get angry and I have tourette syndrome and OCD. Im not sure if that plays a factor. I get upset and this obsession just makes me feel worthless. I feel there is no girl for me and still embarassed about it. I don’t tell anybody cause of the embarrassment and I feel you guys can only help me. I feel that she is the only one for me but I know it will never come true. That hurts me a lot and I have low self esteem. Can you help me in this situatuion, it is interrupting my life. I can’t live like this and I am getting stressed and depressed over this. Please reply back to me. I can’t find happiness and I don’t deserve to feel this way. Please respond back to me.
Thank you.

A. I don’t know your dating history. I don’t know the history of relationships you have been in. I don’t know what reasons you base this obsession on, or what is it that attracts you to this person. For these reasons I cannot give you any sound advice that would help you. That’s what a therapist is for. A therapist needs to ask you many questions to understand what is behind your feelings, the ones you are calling an obsession. I hope you realize that the person you are obsessed with is someone you really don’t know. You’re obsessed with an image that you have made up in your own mind. Everyone is different privately and personally. They have their pubic persona. The image that you are seeing is a completely public image that is carefully groomed and manicured by their personal publicist. In every case, it’s immature and unrealistic to fall in love with someone you do not know. These people are very different privately as is everyone. Everyone has a public and personal side to their being. I would suggest some counseling to help you through this. Good luck.

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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 4 May 2005