Q. Two years ago I met with a man that I had come to care for very much. We got to know each other on the internet, at first at a bulletin board, later through chat and phone calls. We wanted to have sex but delayed it. Then one day he said he was 3000 behind his childcare payments. We wanted to have sex and I made wearing a condom a condition of it. I told him I wanted to make him a loan and it was not payment for sex, that I had come to care deeply about him. He had trouble getting in, in part because he did not give much foreplay. I thought he had the condom on but he didn’t. He simply ejaculated into me. This was my first sexual experience. He later borrowed more for a total of 5500 from me. I was expecting to get paid a little at a time. When he simply would not do it, I told him to forget about it, keep it. I keep getting drunk and saying how sad this made me. I have made one suicide attempt. I have a psychiatrist and a counselor, but it does not help. I constantly think about how I wish I was dead. I also want to tell the others on the internet board what he did. The stealing and the sexual abuse. I’ve come to feel as if this is my duty, so they won’t be taken in. I have told some, but not all. Should I tell all? This might get me banned from the only place I can find to go for intelligent conversation. I might lose my mind with no where to go for intelligent conversation.
What should I do?
A. You can and should go to civil court to get your money back. People often have ulterior motives in relationships and some have no problem taking advantage of honest, sincere people. It is unfortunate that this happened to you but you should explore your options in civil court to help get your money back.
As far as the internet board, read the board rules, regulations and guidelines or talk directly with the administrator (the person who runs the message board) to see what the exact rules are. If you are within the internet board guidelines, then be honest and tell the internet board members all that you are comfortable revealing to them.
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Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 4 Apr 2005
Randle, K. (2005). Met man on Internet-he stole money-what do I do?. Psych Central. Retrieved on February 14, 2012, from http://psychcentral.com/ask-the-therapist/2005/04/04/met-man-on-internet-he-stole-money-what-do-i-do/
