September 7, 1999Time to move on.
I have an idea for a project. I can't get started on it until next month, but it's a pretty exciting idea. Just the idea is making me anxious to explore it (if I ever get that far... so many ideas never come out of my head because the more I consider them, the more I realize it would be hard or impossible to implement them). Hopefully more on this in a few weeks, because in order to realize this idea, I'll need a great deal of your help, your friends' help, your families' help, and anyone you know. It's that big, and no, it doesn't require any money!
In the meantime, I have this to say about relationships... Relationships come and go in our lives. We grow by allowing people into our lives, opening up our hearts and souls to them, telling them our secrets, our fears, our hopes, our dreams. And by listening to theirs and never betraying their confidences or trust in us. This brings us closer to the person, and makes us feel less alone in this great big world. It is one of the great joys of human intimacy. It is one of the great joys of life itself.
Despite this strength, many fear entering into relationships (of any nature) because of the possible end of such relationships. Let me state the obvious -- if you don't risk, you'll never succeed. Know that your life is going to include hurt, that relationships may still end unhappily. But we all grow in having those relationships in the first place.
Don't try to live life without pain. It would be an artificial life, a life without meaning. Instead, understand pain as a learning experience, as a chance to grow and take a new direction in your life. There is nothing to be scared of... It's all a natural part of living a normal, healthy life.
Until next time...
Last reviewed: By John M. Grohol, Psy.D. on 29 Mar 2015
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